Yamboy Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 We dated for 2 years and she went on vacation around a month back and called things off apparently because she fell out of love with me. She found another guy there and started seeing him (including sleeping with him) and we kept texting for a while and even met up when she came back. She admitted to having feelings for the both of us and she was really confused but in the end she decided to tell me to move on and I left without looking back. For the past few days I’ve been ignoring her messages as an attempt to move on because I don’t want to hurt myself and today she sent this to me. I hate that I can't talk to you. For over a year of my life, you were the one person that meant the world to me and now... We can't even look each other in the eye. I get that I broke your heart and I get that distancing yourself is easier, but I hate it. When you left the other day, I went to kill myself. I couldn't. But I looked out the window and realized I would never see you waiting half way down the street, I would never have you walk into my home, I'd never get to see you again and that... Hurts. You said you can't share me. You said you can't move on. But you want to move on because I found happiness somewhere else. I'm not saying you didn't make me happy, you did, just you also made me feel like I was never good enough. I love you though. So I keep on messaging you. But you never reply, I don't expect any different. Don't feel obliged to reply to this either. I just write when I'm in pain, I guess it helps... It's better than crying - then again I'm crying as I write this, so I suppose it isn't better, just easier. I'm sorry for everything. Feel free to block me again. I still love her but I can’t deal with all this confusion. I want her back because of how much we meant to each other and I’m actively trying to change myself to be a better person. Should I reply? What does she want?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 That is one self-indulgent message she sent you. Notice how it's full of "I" statements. That was all about her, with very little regard for you. She's quite self-absorbed, huh? This is a sign of immaturity and complete lack of insight. She wants to alleviate herself of her guilt, and keep you warm in case she breaks it off with her new boyfriend. The poor-me messages are about her ego, but they're not about love or respect for you. I would not reply. She isn't reaching out to for the right reasons.
FMW Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 Good for you for not replying, stay strong. Don't respond. She's being selfish and cruel, trying to hold on to you when she can't/won't commit to being with just you. This is one of those cases where you definitely need to block her messages so you don't even have to see them.
iaudio Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 Classic example of her thinking the grass is greener on the other side. She is keeping you as backup..ignore and move on.
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