preraph Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 With persistent types that can't understand the word no or take a hint, the longer you let them engage with you on any level, the harder they are to get rid of. You know he's not right. Block him and move on. Always listen to your instincts.
OatsAndHall Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 I wanted to go out with him to see that maybe he is not a bad guy BUT he is texting everyday , a few times a day and asking questions that pertain to a couple. We never met yet so he shouldn't be checking in on me like that. Honestly, I would be hesitant to meet up with a woman that was texting me continually if I were in your shoes. I wouldn't describe him as a "bad guy" but this level of communication shows a lack of boundaries. I have this issue with woman that I'm actually IN relationships with. I'm not a big texter as is and it bugs me when I've been at work or coaching, I look at my phone and there's a half dozen texts from them. I know they're showing interest and that's great but I don't have the time or the energy to pull out my phone continually during breaks between practices or during my prep period and have a text conversation. It's just a vicious circle; text after text while I'm busy, I send a pleasant response when I get a chance and them BOOM! a dozen more texts. They get irritated because I'm not engaging in an hour long text conversation and get irritated that they expect it. I went out on two dates with a woman a few weekends ago. I didn't think anything was going to materialize from it as she was slow to respond to messages (they were via FB and I knew she'd seen them..). But, the first date was fun and I asked her out on a second. She jumped all over it and we went out again. But, the second date just had an awkward vibe to it; a lot of uncomfortable pauses in conversation that we both had to fill with banter.. We messaged back and forth for a couple of days afterwards but she didn't respond to the last message I sent to her, asking her if she wanted to meet up for mini-golf. She read it, I haven't heard back from her and I'm just leaving it at that. If she gets a hold of me then we'll see what happens but the ball is in her court. She's obviously not that interested in me, that's fine and I don't need to stroke my ego by trying to get a response.
Dodgersfan11 Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 The only time I get clingy with a guy or start texting him on a daily basis is after I have sex with him because I get too much emotional attachment. But I learned my lesson the hard way.
Author Britney25 Posted August 19, 2018 Author Posted August 19, 2018 This is not good. At best he's desperate to be in a relationship and he doesn't care who it's with. He's already decided that you are going to be his girlfriend before he's even had 1 date with you. At worst he's one of those delusional stalker types who will never go away and may even become dangerous to a woman who tries to reject him. I hate to make him sound like a bad guy if he is not. He's probably not dangerous but you do need to be careful. Tell him you just don't like texting everyday and see how he responds. If he doesn't back off and give you some space then you should cancel the date. Yeah will do that...thanks
coolheadal Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 Yeah will do that...thanks Just don't know who your dealing with yet, he's still a stranger... A lot of strange people are out there. No one is good or bad until you know them better after 3 months the truth comes out. If he's so controlling now then how would it be with him on dates and life.
Gretchen12 Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 I already ignored his text yesterday and after a few hours he texts me again goodnight. I still ignored it. You're right I'm not going to respond for 2-3 days to test him if he goes crazy ass on me! Then I'm out. Yup, and don't give him personal info. 1
introverted1 Posted August 20, 2018 Posted August 20, 2018 Well he tried 6 months. Yes sometimes I reply, sometimes i ignore. If I ignore a text he still initiates next day. Why have you been keeping him on the hook for 6 months? All that texting is bound to create a false sense of intimacy, which is what you are experiencing now. Go out with him or don't, but do one or the other with clarity and decisiveness. 1
Author Britney25 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Posted August 20, 2018 Why have you been keeping him on the hook for 6 months? All that texting is bound to create a false sense of intimacy, which is what you are experiencing now. Go out with him or don't, but do one or the other with clarity and decisiveness. Good question. Well he was more like messaging me on instagram not texting. Honestly i kind of liked him before I gave him my number. Now I am having second thoughts because of the non stop texting. He just texted me Hi 10 mins ago when I didnt even answer his text yesterday. Wtf!
Rocker71 Posted August 20, 2018 Posted August 20, 2018 Well he tried 6 months. Yes sometimes I reply, sometimes i ignore. If I ignore a text he still initiates next day. I love being a fly on this wall. I'm learning so much about how women think.
Author Britney25 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Posted August 20, 2018 Today he texted me after I'm ignoring him for 2 days! Good morning pooh bear.....he is consistant.
Zahara Posted August 20, 2018 Posted August 20, 2018 Today he texted me after I'm ignoring him for 2 days! Good morning pooh bear.....he is consistant. If you are not interested, then be absolutely clear to him that you've decided this isn't going to work for you and block him. I am not sure why you're ignoring him without stating your position. If you are still interested in dating him, then that would be a bad idea.
Author Britney25 Posted August 20, 2018 Author Posted August 20, 2018 If you are not interested, then be absolutely clear to him that you've decided this isn't going to work for you and block him. I am not sure why you're ignoring him without stating your position. If you are still interested in dating him, then that would be a bad idea. The point is maybe I was willing to give him a chance but his texting everyday asking personal questions turned me on this early.
Zahara Posted August 20, 2018 Posted August 20, 2018 The point is maybe I was willing to give him a chance but his texting everyday asking personal questions turned me on this early. Then let him go. Tell him this is not working out and then block him. Stop allowing him access to you since his communication to you is incessant and turning you off. At this point there is no way up but down. 2
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