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how do you deal with the fundamental fact?


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my ex is very caring and has gone great lengths to try to shield me from blame over our breakup (she broke up with me). She's always reassuring me that i'll find better, and that i'm great, things to that effect.

 

but how am i to deal with the fundamental fact that we're not together because of some deficiency in me? There was something that i couldn't provide, and she just didn't want to be together anymore. If i were good enough, wouldn't we still be together? Wouldn't she still want me?

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Aaahhhh, you're fishing, arentcha? :D

 

You know it's not about you, but about you and her. Some people are just incompatible. Sometimes we think we found the right one, but they envision things better and see the incompatibility sooner. When my ex-husband decided to leave me I thought I lost Mr. Right. He realized much sooner that we were not right for each other. And I am thankful for that.

 

Haven't you met so many people who are in love with each other and thought how you could never be in love with them? Haven't you had anyone being in love with you and you thought she wasn't the right one?

 

There is someone for everybody. More than one. You'll find her, don't despair! ;):)

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Definitely what RP said. I don't believe it can be said any better than that :)

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