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Your girlfriend and few friends are drinking, lets say at her place. You are doing something else somewhere else. When they go to sleep, two females sleep on the couch and one guy friend sleep next to her, on her bed. The bed is small, two people can fit on it with no room left either side.

 

Next day you hear how they slept.

 

How would you react?

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So how did you get the juicy details?

 

Not a good thing ... on the other hand, young people sometimes do stupid stuff like this without bad intention ... We older folks know ... don't go near a bed with someone on it you don't want to fool around with.

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Would you immediately break things off with her if they say nothing happened and there was no other place to sleep? This happened to my older brother and I personally wouldnt want to date her anymore. IMO its still disrespectful towards him no matter what happened there.

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You shouldn't go over the top, imagine stuff without direct knowledge of what happened, but I wouldn't let this go either.

 

Women aren't stupid when they sleep next to a guy, if they aren't childhood friends for 20 years, they know the guy might be thinking of trying something.

So don't fool yourself, be very clear it's not okay and lay solid boundaries and if she's really delusional to the point of playing the wounded Angel, I'd say you'll be better off without someone like this as well, because denying there is anything wrong here isn't respectful towards you.

 

Were the other 2 girls also in a relationship, to me it would be logical not to sleep next to the ones in couples, but next to a single one, it's less problematic !?

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Were the other 2 girls also in a relationship, to me it would be logical not to sleep next to the ones in couples, but next to a single one, it's less problematic !?

 

No, both of them are single girls what I have heard.

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Would you immediately break things off with her if they say nothing happened and there was no other place to sleep? This happened to my older brother and I personally wouldnt want to date her anymore. IMO its still disrespectful towards him no matter what happened there.

 

How can there no other place to sleep when two other girls were on the couch? Could he not have slept there, and one of the girls in the bed instead?

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No, both of them are single girls what I have heard.

 

Then to me this is absolutely on purpose, or she just doesn't care about your brother, the guy should have slept with one or both single ladies If nothing else possible.

Sleeping with the only woman that's in a relationship and especially in her bed then is absolutely inexcusable.

 

If she acts like she's the victim, when facing the facts or tries in any fashion to downplay her attitude, I would ask her how she'd feel if her BF would sleep with another women in his bed, because I would never ever consider this okay be it from any gender and would never do such a stupid thing, major lack of boundaries and respect.

If she does this I say your brother needn't think just walk away from her and be done.

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If she acts like she's the victim, when facing the facts or tries in any fashion to downplay her attitude, I would ask her how she'd feel if her BF would sleep with another women in his bed, because I would never ever consider this okay be it from any gender and would never do such a stupid thing, major lack of boundaries and respect.

If she does this I say your brother needn't think just walk away from her and be done.

 

Well, he said to her that it should be no problem for her if he sleep with [His ex gf name] tonight then. She didnt like the idea but my bro is seriously considering the option because ''my gf just agreed we are in a open relationship'' (didnt really but you get the point)

 

They are very fresh couple.. or was i dont know what will happen.

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I'd start by having a long talk with her about why it was wrong for the guy to sleep in her bed with her when she's in a relationship. Unless she sees that your way, apologizes & promises it will never happen again, I'd find a new GF who shares my values.

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Your girlfriend and few friends are drinking, lets say at her place. You are doing something else somewhere else. When they go to sleep, two females sleep on the couch and one guy friend sleep next to her, on her bed. The bed is small, two people can fit on it with no room left either side.

 

Next day you hear how they slept.

 

How would you react?

 

Not well, that's for sure.

 

Would you immediately break things off with her if they say nothing happened and there was no other place to sleep? This happened to my older brother and I personally wouldnt want to date her anymore.

 

A bunch of pillows thrown on the ground with a sheet or two would have been good enough--or getting an uber/lyft/cab to take him home, but no, he would not be sleeping in the same bed as me. That's asking for your a$$ to be handed back to you.

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Well, he said to her that it should be no problem for her if he sleep with [His ex gf name] tonight then. She didnt like the idea but my bro is seriously considering the option because ''my gf just agreed we are in a open relationship'' (didnt really but you get the point)

 

They are very fresh couple.. or was i dont know what will happen.

 

The more you explain the whorse it gets... If a woman I started dating seriously does this, it's strike you're out !

If this comes after months and you don't have any reason not to trust the person, you talk it out, still disrespectful to me but if it's downright still in the beginning phase, what will be next seriously ?

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She's monkey branching....out of line even if nothing "happened". It's not something you do when you are in a relationship with someone.....UNLESS you two are not really "Official" yet.

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Tell your brother to dump her. Any decent woman would not sleep next to a man when she's in a relationship. No place to sleep is not an excuse. He can sleep on the floor. OH or is every inch of the floor occupied as well? Well then sleep in the bathroom or something. I'm sure there are many many other options. Anyways, you know what there's really NO ROOM for? Trash. Get rid of her.

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I would pack her bags for her.

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