Johnny_Rico Posted August 16, 2018 Posted August 16, 2018 I am taking some summer college classes, and a girl going to the same school matched with me and wants to go on a road trip. We met and she seemed pretty cool, and we are gonna do some stuff together before jumping the gun. I coincidentally have some time off from work. I am only going to go with her if I like her and see her as a possible girlfriend. Even though I know she is a student, what is the worst that can happen in this situation, and what should I be watchful of? Is she going to steal my money, or scam me or something possibly? Or do some girls just roll this way and act spontaneous?
d0nnivain Posted August 16, 2018 Posted August 16, 2018 Define road trip. We get into Ubers & taxis with strangers all the time. When I was in college (before the internet) there was a "ride board" in the student union. People who needed a ride somewhere could post their wants & people with cars would call them & tell them how much. I had a car so I'd get a few #s call these people & drive them from central PA to NNJ for $20 pp; that got me company on the 4 hour drive & enough money for round trip gas. I never met these people before & rarely saw them again. I think I'd want to know somebody for at least a few weeks before sleeping over night on a road trip with them but as for getting murdered or robbed in your sleep that could happen during a plain ole ONS. So are you a good judge of character? Do you trust your own instincts? Based on your other thread about lots of 1st dates but not being able to convert to a relationship, are you sure you want to risk being stuck with somebody you turn out not to like or with whom you are incompatible?
Happy Lemming Posted August 16, 2018 Posted August 16, 2018 I wouldn't do it... In my youth, a woman I was dating dumped me 150 miles from home while we were on a road trip/vacation together. Its a long story, she had it all planned out and I fell for it hook, line and sinker. Luckily, I was able to walk to a Greyhound bus station and get a ticket home. After that, I never travel without my own vehicle. In my opinion, don't do it!! 2
Author Johnny_Rico Posted August 16, 2018 Author Posted August 16, 2018 She wants to go down the old route 66. I agree with you. If I don't like her or feel chemistry I won't go. I was actually planning on going on a vacation by myself, which is why I am even considering the idea. I will tell her let's see if things work out on a few dates first. I doubt she wants to be stuck with someone she doesn't like either, unless there are poor intentions.
Author Johnny_Rico Posted August 16, 2018 Author Posted August 16, 2018 I wouldn't do it... In my youth, a woman I was dating dumped me 150 miles from home while we were on a road trip/vacation together. Its a long story, she had it all planned out and I fell for it hook, line and sinker. Luckily, I was able to walk to a Greyhound bus station and get a ticket home. After that, I never travel without my own vehicle. In my opinion, don't do it!! Sorry that happened to you. If I do it, I think I will rent a rental car under my name. Kind of hard to kick someone out of a rental car, they have trackers in the them.
Happy Lemming Posted August 16, 2018 Posted August 16, 2018 Sorry that happened to you. If I do it, I think I will rent a rental car under my name. Kind of hard to kick someone out of a rental car, they have trackers in the them. I'd research rental car insurance, etc. I don't know what it covers in the event something goes bad. I know nothing about the GPS trackers that may or may not be in rental cars these days. In my situation, we took her car on this road trip/vacation. So I really didn't have any recourse, when she dumped me and drove away. The bus ride home was long and slow, but I learned a very valuable lesson about trusting people and not having a plan B if something goes south. Be careful!! 1
Sunlight72 Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 I will tell her let's see if things work out on a few dates first. I doubt she wants to be stuck with someone she doesn't like either, unless there are poor intentions.Exactly. You're fine. Yes, do meet her a couple times, but then I'm sure you'll have an impression if she's a real person or not. I'm not worried for you. She goes to your college/university, is that right? Should be fine. What's the worst that could happen? Well, with my first girlfriend, at age 20, for our second date we went on a 3 day road trip. She took my virginity, and later on we got married. So watch out for that!
rightondude Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 Yeah "do stuff" with her first and then go for it. Hell you could "know" someone for months and then all of a sudden you get a knock at the door and her husband comes trying to stab you. Don't ask how I know that.
Lotsgoingon Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 Funny question ... and yes, this is risky on multiple levels. You could dislike her energy or dislike her ... or she dislikes you and you guys are stranded together for way too long. And of course, she could be a serial killer or have some deep problem you are unaware of ... There is a reason we date ... to get to know the person ... which is hard enough! Definitely weird to spend so much time with someone so soon.
MountainGirl111 Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 I'd be leery if I were you. Most gals wouldn't go on a road trip with a man she barely knows.
bathtub-row Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 I think you’re likely to find that a girl with this kind of indiscretion is likely to be on the flaky side. 1
Chris2016 Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 I'd be leery if I were you. Most gals wouldn't go on a road trip with a man she barely knows. Good point! Joanna Dennehy was a female serial killer, psychopath. Sexted a dude then killed him later.
Desesperado Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 If there is something I learned from dating intensively these last 5 years, is most us men suck at judging women character and most women are much more effective at hiding stuff than we are and keep a good face. Yes as others pointed out, what kind of woman puts herself at "mercy" of a guy they barely know, alone for days !? You can say great she's not affraid and spontaneous, but one can also wonder if she's very stable and won't flip on you any minute. I'd thread carefully !
ExpatInItaly Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 Eh, I wouldn't want to go on a road trip with anyone I didn't already know well. Can you imagine being stuck for hours on end with someone you turn out not to like all that much? No, thanks. The others have also made a good point that most women are not going to be asking a guy they barely know to road-trip with them. Sure, maybe she considers herself "carefree" but the absence of discretion or sound judgment would give me pause here.
bathtub-row Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 (edited) If there is something I learned from dating intensively these last 5 years, is most us men suck at judging women character and most women are much more effective at hiding stuff than we are and keep a good face. Yes as others pointed out, what kind of woman puts herself at "mercy" of a guy they barely know, alone for days !? You can say great she's not affraid and spontaneous, but one can also wonder if she's very stable and won't flip on you any minute. I'd thread carefully ! What I’ve noticed is that women are very good at judging other women, and men are very good at judging other men. The sexes are fairly transparent to the same sex, while the opposite sex is typically bad at seeing motive, character, etc. This is why a man should listen when a woman doesn’t approve of someone he’s dating, and vice versa. I’ve also noticed that people who were abused at a young age are very good at judging character - more for others than for themselves. Edited August 17, 2018 by bathtub-row
Zippy2000 Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 Its a risk but its up to you to take it or not. You could go and have a blast OR you could go and it could turn out to be a disaster BUT you have a story to tell. I wouldn't go as Ive heard of some horror stories. I have a friend who met a man online and went to France. Never met in person but he wanted to do different things and he in the end deserted her in France. Another friend I had never met until they went on holiday and had a clash of personnalities. She made fun of his speedos and ended up having a massive argument abroad. Its a risk you take but youll never know unless you go.
coolheadal Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 Sorry that happened to you. If I do it, I think I will rent a rental car under my name. Kind of hard to kick someone out of a rental car, they have trackers in the them. Listen don't do it okay she can get the law on you and you'll be in trouble. We men for get there are some that will call the police on you for no reason. They can yell rape, they can say you abused her all sorts of things. Your going to take a student how is she? You better think twice. She could attack with a knife or pepper spray. You would be stuck in nowhere land. Just don't take someone you just met online anywhere like that. Come on now get serious. Don't even bring them into you home to live with you either. I've learned my lesson. Johnny just be careful... Think twice before you say help want to go on a road trip with me and I know your a stranger is pretty much what you should be saying!
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 What I’ve noticed is that women are very good at judging other women, and men are very good at judging other men. The sexes are fairly transparent to the same sex, while the opposite sex is typically bad at seeing motive, character, etc. . Not always. I can always pick a great man but I pick the wounded bird trainwrecks all the time when I try to make new women friends. I hold the men in my life to high standards & give other women a pass & multiple second chances all the time. I used to run share houses with a dear female friend of mine who was one of the good ones but then again I got to know her through a different childhood female friend. As of the 2nd year I was no longer allowed to meet prospective female housemates on my own because my judgment with women was soooooo off. Johnny-Rico If you are going to go on this road trip you better have a few long talks with this woman before you set off about her travel style: will she expect you two to do everything together? what's her budget? will you both be flirting with other people? what if one of you gets lucky? what are her dietary preferences? music tastes? does she like to talk on road trips or be silent (one of my biggest pet peeves about my husband is he doesn't talk in the car & usually falls asleep in the passenger seat after about 15 minutes; it's worse then driving alone for me because I can't even blast the radio to sing along)? is she a morning person / night owl? how will you split the driving? what is her driving record? how much luggage will you be bringing? You need to hammer some of this out before you commit to several weeks together that you might not be able to get out of
Desesperado Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 What I’ve noticed is that women are very good at judging other women, and men are very good at judging other men. The sexes are fairly transparent to the same sex, while the opposite sex is typically bad at seeing motive, character, etc. This is why a man should listen when a woman doesn’t approve of someone he’s dating, and vice versa. I’ve also noticed that people who were abused at a young age are very good at judging character - more for others than for themselves. I agree but keep this in mind, women can very easily bad mouth other women, because to discredit reputation is their way of trying to get back at other women. While we men will mostly be mocking the guys abilities/status, or hint physical aggression. But yes generaly I tell my female friend, this guy is a player or a douche and they never listen, I'm almost every time spot on. Therefore the wisest phrase I always repeat is, watch her actions not her words, jealousy is a powerful motivation among human beings...
Noproblem Posted August 17, 2018 Posted August 17, 2018 life is full of crazy people! Just a minute ago, I read the news about the crazy husband who killed his pregnant wife and 2 little girls! I mean, do not do it!
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