Possible FWB?

[jcm 800]

I split with my wife about a year and a half ago. Divorce is final, I've been going to therapy, etc. Since then, I've been on multiple first dates and a few second dates, but nothing has clicked with anyone, and it's been quite frustrating. Every date I had was with someone who was looking for a relationship, which was fine, because I was too.

 

I decided to take a step back and go for something a bit more casual, as I have never had that kind of relationship/arrangement before. I responded to an online dating profile for FWB, and we seemed to hit it off via messaging and text. We both agreed that having some kind of connection, and being friends was also important and before she asked me for a coffee date for later this week. She was definitely flirting, and there is no doubt about her intentions, and she ended the conversation saying that waiting for the date "gave time to build anticipation ;)" and to text in the mean time if I wanted to.

 

I do want to text, because I don't want to come off like the creepy guy who is expecting sex within minutes of meeting, but on the other hand, I'm not sure what to say. Texting when you are trying to build towards a relationship is not difficult for me, but this will never go beyond FWB (and I'm fine with that, honestly), so I'm not sure where to go at this point. Is it appropriate for me to send flirty texts?

 

As far as the actual date goes, I'm actually just planning on being myself, and taking it as it comes. I assume it will be a little awkward because the intentions are on the table right away, but I'm also somewhat relieved about that.

 

Any advice/help is greatly appreciated.

Edited August 14, 2018 by jcm 800

[Highndry]

This is an extremely easy situation, in my opinion. I'm not sure what you're hung up on exactly. I wouldn't text too much until I met her for coffee - you don't know until you see her if you're going to be attracted to her.

 

If she's sending flirty texts, I'd probably respond in kind, but nothing over the top. That being said, a woman looking for an FWB online isn't going to be put off by some sexual innuendo, and you can take a lot of what she says about her relationship experience/history with a grain of salt. No woman ever said "yeah, I'm sleeping with different guys every week."

[jcm 800]

You're right. This was another case of me overthinking. I just texted her like I would anyone else, and we had good, and sometimes flirty conversation. No need to obsess about every little detail.