loststraydawg Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 hi, well for yrs now i have always wondered what it was that was stopping me from going out and finding a GF. now 23 and been without a GF since i was in yr 9 (umm..8-9yrs ago) practically a VIRGIN to having a realationship, i feel as though i may never know what it is like to call someone my GF or to be out somewhere with someone knowing that they are with me. sometimes when i go out i feel attracted to many women...but can never build the courage to go and talk to them. I think my problem came from the hardship i had through my schooling. i have really only ever had 1 GF and it lasted 2 wks and she cheated on me and said she only went out with me cause she felt sorry for me (in front of alot of ppl mind you). and i dont think i've fully recovered. I ve tried to talk to many girls, but always, always ends in some form of rejection. I am so afraid of rejection now that it brings me to tears sometimes. 9 yrs later, i am still without a GF or knowing what it is like to even be out on a date. i have know idea when a girl is interested or even when she is being friendly or flirting with me, i am completely dumbfounded. although i am saying all this in the hope that someone can respond and tell me that they can fix my problem(not likely i know), but more-so just getting this off my chest. I hope that you would feel privlidged in hearing what i've had to say as i have never ever told anyone how i really feel face to face. only to a face i cannot see can i bring myself to talk about whats buried deep inside this soft soul, that just has a lust for intimacy, and the feeling of kissing a girl, and knowing she wants to kiss me back is something that i would give the world for. anyway love to hear what anyone has to say, dont be shy to elaborate in your response. sincerely Darren!
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 dont be shy to elaborate in your response. In that case, I won't Seriously, I think you need to lose the "lost little puppy" thing. You are only going to attract girls who feel sorry for you. Be a man! Drop the self-pity, work on your confidence. Exercise, do some self-improvement, get out and make friends - both guys and girls. Ask your female friends for honest advice on what you can do to improve yourself. Don't focus on dating right now, make it a six month project to get yourself ready to date.
bluechocolate Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 I ve tried to talk to many girls, but always, always ends in some form of rejection. Do you approach every interaction with a girl like this might be a potential girlfriend? It might be a good idea to try & forget about having a "girl"friend & just cultivate more friendships. I would also echo the rest of ReluctantRomeo's post.
JS17 Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 We see this story over and over again here. This sounds like a typical case of social anxiety coming from a traumatic young adult relationship or experience. You need to work on your self-esteem and confidence and build a full life for yourself. Start doing some research on how to overcome social anxiety. Good Luck:)
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