Roxychic87 Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 I have been with my bf for quite some time and have realized that we hold different wants and needs for our futures and even though I still love him we both are better off with other people. We currently live in a one bedroom apartment and being the female all of the bills are under my name. Because of my bfs car situation he needs to be close to work, which is where we are now. And since I can live anywhere I have decided to let him stay at the apt while I relocate until the lease is up. I’m wondering since we have about 8 months left in our current lease if I should go about talking to the landlord to have my name removed from the lease and pay any fees for breaking etc or stay with some friends and ride out the lease until it’s up. I feel like if I do ride it out and stay with other people I feel no need to pitch in on rent when I’m no longer staying there, even though still technically on lease. I know he can afford the rent on his own. Any advice would be appreciated. These things always get messy but I know atleast we will be civil about it.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 You might not feel the need to pitch in on rent if you're staying elsewhere, but if your name is on the lease, you might not have a choice in that. Legally, you are responsible and it's not a wise gamble to take. I understand you and he want to be civil, but you should have your name removed from the lease if you no longer intend to pay rent. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 If the landlord & all the utilities do not let you out of the lease, then you will be responsible for the bills even if he does not pay. I would never risk my credit history by trusting an EX to pay bills in my name. Unless you can afford to pay double -- your bills & your new place plus all the bills here if he gets nasty & reneges on his promises to pay -- I would make him move. Otherwise you will have to suck it up until the lease ends. If you were having troubles 4 months ago, you should never have signed the new lease. At the very least, get him to sign a sub-lease / assignment assuming the landlord lets you. You better have a writing from him setting forth everything he agrees to be responsible for. He must sign it. I'd get it notarized too just to be safe. If you have no legal drafting skills seek out an attorney because your agreement should contain an acceleration clause, penalties & interest & a paragraph that says he has to pay legal fees & costs if you have to sue him. Another consideration will be what if he has a party in your apartment & somebody gets hurt? That injured person could potentially sue you because technically it's your lease even if you don't live there. There are too may risk factors here for you to be nice about this.
stillafool Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 What do you mean "being the female the bills are all in your name"?
anduina Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 IF the lease and bills are in your name only, then he should move out unless your landlord is willing to transfer the lease to his name only. The other bills can be transferred to your new apartment and he can arrange for his own utilities to start up on the day yours ends. If you're the one who put down the damage deposit and you end up moving out, you might have to kiss that goodbye. People are prone to behaving badly after break up since their negative emotions are high. They don't have any incentive to behave well, especially if they feel you've done them wrong. 1
Author Roxychic87 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Posted August 14, 2018 I am aware that I should not have resigned the lease but it wasn’t until recently that I have gained more insight from him that our futures do not match up and so it is until now that I have made the decision to not continue with the relationship. We are both on the lease and I would like to move out and let him stay there. I will talk to my landlord and see if they can remove me from our lease. I really want to avoid paying to break it or any other fees. I’m just thinking maybe I should just see it through for the next 8 months but that just seems crazy to me to prolong something I know won’t work in the end.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 14, 2018 Posted August 14, 2018 I am aware that I should not have resigned the lease but it wasn’t until recently that I have gained more insight from him that our futures do not match up and so it is until now that I have made the decision to not continue with the relationship. We are both on the lease and I would like to move out and let him stay there. I will talk to my landlord and see if they can remove me from our lease. I really want to avoid paying to break it or any other fees. I’m just thinking maybe I should just see it through for the next 8 months but that just seems crazy to me to prolong something I know won’t work in the end. See what through, the relationship?
Author Roxychic87 Posted August 14, 2018 Author Posted August 14, 2018 Yes, but I feel like I know doing this isn’t fair to me or him but it it’s just my silly way to avoid paying any unnecessary fees.
HiCrunchy Posted August 14, 2018 Posted August 14, 2018 (edited) Break the lease and pay the fees if u truly want to break up with ur bf. Think of it as a cancellation fee for ending the relationship. Also if he wanted to, I am pretty sure he can sue u for half the rent if u move while ur name is on it and dont pay. Ur choice. Edited August 14, 2018 by HiCrunchy 1
d0nnivain Posted August 15, 2018 Posted August 15, 2018 If the landlord doesn't voluntarily let you off, you are stuck being legally responsible for the rent & the bills. We'll keep our fingers crossed that the landlord is understanding but if your BF has a lousy credit rating or doesn't earn enough to afford the lease by himself your landlord is going to want to hang on to you. Another option might be for you two to line up a new tenant & then both break the lease. The landlord is not damaged & therefore can't win a suit against you if you supply a new qualified tenant / source of rent.
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