Broken-hearted2006 Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 Me and my ex boyfriend were together for 6 months. He has 4 small children of his own who I was very attached to and I have 2 of my own who he was attached to. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago (July 29) because I wasn’t trusting him due to insecurities that I struggle with. He’s not a cheater and there’s no reason I should’ve never trusted him. When he broke up with me he was being sweet and sincere. He told me how great I am and a great mother and not to be hard on myself and to stop putting myself down. He hugged me and told me we will still be friends and he still will be in my life . I wrote on a piece of paper what I did wrong and how to fix it and he asked if he could keep it. Why I asked him. He said why not?! After that night he wouldn’t talk to me. He ignored my texts and calls . I begged him back and pleaded but nothing worked. I still have his house key and he has mine. His important belongings are still at my house and he gave me my clothes that were left at his house except for my pillow that is on his bed. He even gave me back my intimate belongings and said “I don’t want u thinking anything so I figured u can have these back too”. I have spoke to him very briefly but he does let me talk to his kids . It feels good to talk to them but it hurts because I still want him and the kids in my life. Yes it was a vibrator for me and one for him. I texted him this past Wednesday morning telling him this... I get that u were and maybe still upset but Dustin I’ve been giving u the space u have asked for. I have realized what I did wrong and how to fix it and am changing my ways. I’m not asking for everything to be back the way it was but I am asking for another chance for both of us to start over. To introduce ourselves all over and move slow this time around. I miss u and I miss us. I miss the kids and Sierra misses all of u too. I have been so sad that I can’t even function. I’m sure u can relate. I’m not sleeping. I’m sick to my stomach. I keep asking myself why do u hate me so much. I’m truly sorry. Everyone says to give u time that you’ll come back but I’m really thinking you’re not. I read the texts and listen to your voicemails and u seemed sincere at that time. I don’t and won’t put you through what you’ve been through before. I promise you I won’t. Your past is your past and has nothing to do with me. Please give me another chance to make it right. I promise you won’t regret it. On this past Friday I got a text saying this from him.... I’m sorry for the way I acted recently I don’t want you to hurt no more This is why I’ve been so distant Sorry for breaking your heart that was never my tensions Yes we had great memories together Remember watching movies together hOlding hands in the theater with Danica vomiting I remember like it was yesterday In time days will become better upon us I understand your pain please look beyond and be Desiree the loving caring funny cool nurturing person that you are.... After I received this text I texted back and asked if we could talk. He said sure. It was a basic convo . Nothing about our relationship or his text. He then had to go because a mutual friend of ours showed up at his house. After our friend left he texted me back and was asking what I was doing and what I was watching in Netflix. Said his house needed to be taken care of because he let it go for so long. I told him it was nice to hear from him and said the same. Then he stopped texting. I haven’t heard from him since. Our friend said he told him that he still cares about me and he’s taking it slow and see what happens and for me to trust Gina Nd be patient. I asked him did he say he’s going to give me another chance and he said kinda without actually saying it. What does all of this mean? Does he want me back? Please help! Also, we were supposed to go to a concert this Friday but he hasn’t mentioned anything to me, do u think he’s going to take someone else? We were supposed to go with our mutual friend and his wife.
Zahara Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 Step away from him. Stop pestering him with contact and wanting another chance. He knows what you want so anymore begging and asking is only going to push him further away. If you suffer from anxiety/insecurity, you need to find professional help in how to deal with those issues. It doesn't just go away because him breaking up with you has suddenly made you see the light. These are ingrained and will surface again. Stay NC with him. Focus on bettering yourself. Give yourself space and time to find emotional/mental clarity and to also work on your issues. In the meantime, treat this as a break-up and start moving on. Forget about the concert. Don't bring it up. And if he does, let him go with his friends. You don't need to put yourself in a situation that will only give you mixed signals and cause you pain.
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