Pete2211 Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 ********Well, I moved to a new town, got a new job and now looking for some new women. So far most are either too old or engaged/married. Now where I work I spotted a hot chick, I only talked with her for a moment during one of the 5min group sessions. ********I don't really know anything about her but she looks like she's a goth. I'd like to at least get on her friendly side but beyond that I'm not sure. Would a goth chick date a non goth guy? During breaks she only associates with a goth guy and a couple of old women. The guy could be her bf or her brother for all I know. ********I'm far from being goth; I have short hair, I listen to country music, lift weights, no piercings ect I have my looks so if she is single she'd be a female first and, my style wouldn't matter, right? ********thanks pete
BonneChatte Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 I'm not a goth, but I do have my own unique style. So obviously I can't speak for her, but I think I can relate to her. This could go either way (I know...not what you wanted to hear!). I have dated guys with all sorts of styles. The benefit to dating a guy totally different is that it's new and exciting. The drawback is, there may be a lack of shared interests...making a long-term relationship difficult. My advice to you is this: explain to her you're new in town and don't really know anyone yet and then ask her to lunch sometime (pretty innocent and harmless). You should be able to gauge from your private, one-on-one conversation how much you guys click...then take it from there and ask her out to a show or art gallery exhibition later…something you’d both like to do. It's also important that you show her that you're open-minded and are interested in her, and the things she does (admit when you’re not familiar with something she talks about)....and most importantly...actually BE INTERESTED, don't fake it or she'll know! Anyway, if you have to fake it then it's probably not a good match in the first place. Good luck!
HeartSprinkles Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 If you do chat it up with her, keep it light-hearted, be charming and say nice things, but don't be creepy. If and when you do go out with her, do something on equally different territory. Example, don't take her to a country western bar to do the boot scootin boogie (unless she asks). Do, take her to coffee (if you wan to keep it short), or like BonneChatte said, an art gallery (if you feel comfortable). Hey, how about the lost art of putt-putt golf? Or, you can go bowling (it would be something dorky and fun to talk about). Have fun...
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