Should I confront him about this or should I let it go if we talk normally again?

[theashley85]

So I have been a little upset this week, because my boyfriend of 7 months, which is older than me (he is 46) I am 30, has not text me this whole week, on Tuesday he just send me a video through Whatsapp, I rather a ’‘Hi my love’’, not a video.

 

 

He likes to send me videos that his friends send him, sometimes funny, society, science etc, the one he sent me was more about people interactions in Asia or something like that, I was annoyed cause I was expecting a message, so obviously since it was a video I did not reply, I just felt like meh, whatever.

 

 

I want to mention that this man has been very good to me, he has been very giving, loving, attentive, have details, etc. His family came like 2 weeks ago and I met his mother, aunt and stepdad, his mother liked me a lot.

 

 

This past weekend I stayed over his new bought house(which needs a lot of fixing and has him somewhat stressed) and everything was fine, we went out, had fun, I cooked for him.He is worried about the amount of money he has to put in this house to fix it, but he already found someone who is going to help him with some things for way cheaper. He also needs to find a person to rent an efficiency that the home has (they build the garage as an efficiency) to help him with the monthly mortgage, so he wouldn’t be that tight.My boyfriend has a good job, that pays him well, but it’s way too much money he has to invest in the home, so it’s not enough.He has his hands kind of full now with his new house.

 

 

I don’t know if something is wrong, and he got mad that I did not reply to the video, which is silly cause you don’t reply to a video, I do admit that I like him to always initiate contact, I have this issue from a long time, that I feel better when the man initiates contact, maybe he is mad that I never text him first?

 

 

Or he does not feel the same way. I know he has been getting online on his Whatsapp, maybe not a lot, but he has been on it. I don’t know what to think.what do you guys think?

[stillafool]

It sounds like he has a lot going on. Just relax and call up some friends and go out.

[kendahke]

on Tuesday he just send me a video through Whatsapp, I rather a ’‘Hi my love’’, not a video.

 

since it was a video I did not reply, I just felt like meh, whatever.

 

he got mad that I did not reply to the video, which is silly cause you don’t reply to a video

 

Your "meh" attitude towards his video and not responding with at least an LOL (I mean, how many hours out of your day would that have taken?) is why you find yourself where you find yourself.

 

, I do admit that I like him to always initiate contact, I have this issue from a long time, that I feel better when the man initiates contact, maybe he is mad that I never text him first?

 

It's time to move off of this and start acting like you like being in this relationship with him. What you're doing is like being on a sinking boat and he's bailing water, but you want to sit there and complain about getting wet. There is no reason on earth why you can't initiate any communication with him. None.

[Gaeta]

At 7 months dating you don't want to initiate text?? That is childish. You're a grown woman so act like one. Any man would grow pretty tired of being the only initiator. Men are just like us, they also want to know we think of them. Treat him the way YOU want to be treated.

[smackie9]

At 7 months dating you don't want to initiate text?? That is childish. You're a grown woman so act like one. Any man would grow pretty tired of being the only initiator. Men are just like us, they also want to know we think of them. Treat him the way YOU want to be treated.

This 100%.^^^

[Zahara]

Reading through your post, I was wondering why you weren't able to reach out to him and then you mentioned that you never initiate communication.

 

It's one thing to expect a man to be the initiator in the early stages of courtship but you are in a 7 month relationship. Communication should be two-way. I'm not sure why he isn't reaching out to you but moving forward, your inability to communicate can be at some point a turn off to your partner.

 

You say he is going through a difficult time -- don't you think he would like to hear a kind or supportive word from you? He could also be wondering if you really care.

[ExpatInItaly]

You're the one dropping the ball here, OP.

 

Sure, he only sent you a video and it doesn't require a detailed response, only an acknowledgement would have been nice. But you never send him anything first, correct? He's probably getting awfully tired of that and wondering why you can't be bothered.

 

You need to pull up your socks on this one, girl. Don't make him do all the work.

[Gretchen12]

It's not enough to just be female, not even if you're pretty. You also need to be interesting. Being silent makes you boring, blank, complacent. People want to be with others that are fun to be with.

[d0nnivain]

I have a Q. Just because he didn't initiate any texts this week did he reach out in other ways? Did you talk on the phone? See each other? Go on a date? If you had these other interactions your focus on his failure to text is petty.

 

 

If you had no contact at all, it's still your fault for not reaching out to him. You have been together 7 months. There is no reason on earth you can't initiate once in a while. You are a participant in this relationship. Act like it.

 

 

On top of that he has a shiny new toy, this house, which is taking up a lot of his time & energy.