Author bear123 Posted August 29, 2018 Author Posted August 29, 2018 (edited) I also have a feeling he still has something for his ex (the one he was with before I came along) because looking at what she said, he begs for her attention and he got into a relationship with this new girl once she got into a relationship Edited August 29, 2018 by bear123
ExpatInItaly Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 And I'm not certain shes moved in with him, I just asked his ex because they live close and she said "I'm not telling you, you'll only bitch and moan at him" Why would I bitch and moan at him if she hasnt? so basically, she gave it away that she has moved in with him but still not 100% certain Better question - why are you even in contact with his ex at all? It's not your business what he does with his new girlfriend, and it's certainly not appropriate to be pumping his ex for information. 1
Author bear123 Posted August 29, 2018 Author Posted August 29, 2018 Better question - why are you even in contact with his ex at all? It's not your business what he does with his new girlfriend, and it's certainly not appropriate to be pumping his ex for information. Well, she was involved the whole time and hes always said while "loving" me that he loves her as a friend.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 Well, she was involved the whole time and hes always said while "loving" me that he loves her as a friend. Why the heck was she involved the whole time? It's not normal for an ex to be this involved in a relationship. This relationship sounds more and more dysfunctional with the more details you provide. 1
Author bear123 Posted August 29, 2018 Author Posted August 29, 2018 Why the heck was she involved the whole time? It's not normal for an ex to be this involved in a relationship. This relationship sounds more and more dysfunctional with the more details you provide. Yeah I know, I'm starting to think hes a creep. I googled his snapchat on google(I'm starting to sound creepy myself haha, but when you're hurt you do this stuff) and theres a linnk saying: "These are my cheating ex’s details. My name is Amy. Hit me up so I can get some revenge on him ;)" I'm creeped out. Who the hell did i lose my virginity to....
ExpatInItaly Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 Yes, you need to cut yourself off from him. He's not mature and he's the type who likes a lot of women in his orbit. How did you meet him, out of curiosity? 1
Author bear123 Posted August 29, 2018 Author Posted August 29, 2018 Yes, you need to cut yourself off from him. He's not mature and he's the type who likes a lot of women in his orbit. How did you meet him, out of curiosity? I met him online in this group which immediatly sounds bad lol. I'm so stupid...... I'm starting to think hes a narcissist
ExpatInItaly Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 I met him online in this group which immediatly sounds bad lol. I'm so stupid...... I'm starting to think hes a narcissist I wouldn't go that far. He just sounds like your typical player who knows what to say to get a girl hooked on him. For your own well-being, I would stay away from guys online who don't live locally. It's too difficult to know what type of person you're really dealing with and you can't get to know them well on a deeper level.
Author bear123 Posted August 29, 2018 Author Posted August 29, 2018 I wouldn't go that far. He just sounds like your typical player who knows what to say to get a girl hooked on him. For your own well-being, I would stay away from guys online who don't live locally. It's too difficult to know what type of person you're really dealing with and you can't get to know them well on a deeper level. You're right. Well I hope he comes running back to me just so i can tell him where to shove it
ExpatInItaly Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 You're right. Well I hope he comes running back to me just so i can tell him where to shove it I know it's tempting, but it won't be worth it. You run the risk of getting sucked back in. Block him. Don't follow him on any social media and don't keep in contact with any of his friends or exes.
Author bear123 Posted August 29, 2018 Author Posted August 29, 2018 I know it's tempting, but it won't be worth it. You run the risk of getting sucked back in. Block him. Don't follow him on any social media and don't keep in contact with any of his friends or exes. Ok, thank you for your help. I'll follow your advice as I wouldn't like to get hurt again
Author bear123 Posted September 9, 2018 Author Posted September 9, 2018 Basically the guy i was seeing claims to love his ex as a "best friend" but the way they treat eachother is odd and it's nowhere near like friends. He put her first all the time and got mad if i mentioned anything about her. The guy i was seeing now has a girlfriend and his ex also has a boyfriend but his ex still rubs it in my face how they were together and how he never asked me out.. he also calls her everynight and talks to her all the time. it's just weird how close they are is it possible theyr polyamarous? and i bet his girlfriend doesn't even know about his ex
basil67 Posted September 9, 2018 Posted September 9, 2018 Polyamory is the practice of engaging in multiple sexual relationships with the consent of all the people involved. If you're not giving consent, then the boys are simply cheating on you.
Author bear123 Posted September 10, 2018 Author Posted September 10, 2018 Basically what I said in the title. The guy who claimed to love me shows everything I say to his ex and she keeps rubbing it in how she was his girlfriend and I wasn't... why's she so involved if shes his ex? also he has a girlfriend now..
kendahke Posted September 10, 2018 Posted September 10, 2018 Basically what I said in the title. The guy who claimed to love me shows everything I say to his ex and she keeps rubbing it in how she was his girlfriend and I wasn't... why's she so involved if shes his ex? also he has a girlfriend now.. 3 great reasons to leave him be he's messy a.f. 2
Zahara Posted September 10, 2018 Posted September 10, 2018 Why are you still communicating with this clown? 1
Author bear123 Posted September 10, 2018 Author Posted September 10, 2018 Why are you still communicating with this clown? Basically I was upset because he was saying he loved me and stuff the next thing he's with another girl and I thought Id talk to his ex(which was always involved) and she got bitchy with me making out he used me for sex so i asked him if it was true (he explained that it wasnt true) and i showed her what he said about it not being true becuase she was like "Truth hurts doesn't it" then she goes "Already seen it love he sent it to me" "Bye now"
Zahara Posted September 10, 2018 Posted September 10, 2018 Basically I was upset because he was saying he loved me and stuff the next thing he's with another girl and I thought Id talk to his ex(which was always involved) and she got bitchy with me making out he used me for sex so i asked him if it was true (he explained that it wasnt true) and i showed her what he said about it not being true becuase she was like "Truth hurts doesn't it" then she goes "Already seen it love he sent it to me" "Bye now" You're creating drama. You need to stop reaching out to these people because you're hurting from your break-up. Your ex and neither can his ex help you come to terms with it. Regardless of whether he used you or not, whether he loved you or not, the fact is that he has chosen to move on to someone else. You both were working on this from a distance and you even noted that you were never in a proper relationship with him. You even noted you were on and off for those 9 months and hardly saw each other. You need to stop romanticizing and idealizing what you had. He has now chosen to move on to someone closer to him. Let it go. If you are hurting, reach out to your friends and family. Your ex and his ex cannot comfort nor can they give you the answers you need to move on. That closure comes from within -- the acceptance that it is over. It is not a reflection of your worth or value -- it's the reality that what you had was never going to work, and alas it came to an end. Did you think the on and off and not seeing each other was going to evolve into a lasting relationship? Start focusing on the reality of what you truly had with this guy.
smackie9 Posted September 10, 2018 Posted September 10, 2018 Don't be the cray cray ex GF. Just walk away from it, and move on.
Author bear123 Posted September 10, 2018 Author Posted September 10, 2018 You're creating drama. You need to stop reaching out to these people because you're hurting from your break-up. Your ex and neither can his ex help you come to terms with it. Regardless of whether he used you or not, whether he loved you or not, the fact is that he has chosen to move on to someone else. You both were working on this from a distance and you even noted that you were never in a proper relationship with him. You even noted you were on and off for those 9 months and hardly saw each other. You need to stop romanticizing and idealizing what you had. He has now chosen to move on to someone closer to him. Let it go. If you are hurting, reach out to your friends and family. Your ex and his ex cannot comfort nor can they give you the answers you need to move on. That closure comes from within -- the acceptance that it is over. It is not a reflection of your worth or value -- it's the reality that what you had was never going to work, and alas it came to an end. Did you think the on and off and not seeing each other was going to evolve into a lasting relationship? Start focusing on the reality of what you truly had with this guy. My mind is just all over the place. I can't stop thinking of him either and I don't know why as he's just a dick. I feel sorry for his current girlfriend when he's super close to his ex still
Zahara Posted September 10, 2018 Posted September 10, 2018 My mind is just all over the place. I can't stop thinking of him either and I don't know why as he's just a dick. I feel sorry for his current girlfriend when he's super close to his ex still Stop feeling sorry for other people and start focusing on your own behavior. You were accepting of him being in contact with his ex when you were engaging with him. Just like his current girlfriend, you need to figure out why you tolerated behavior that wasn't right for you. You're harping on this because now that he has chosen another woman, you've defined him moving on as a result of your own worth. You feel something is wrong with you and that is why you are seeking validation from others as to what he really felt for you. Stop doing that -- and as Smackie mentioned, you're only putting yourself in a bad light. This was never going to work. Find consolation that he ended it and now you are able to move on rather than being indefinitely stuck in a "going nowhere" situation. Stop trying to find answers. Start finding acceptance. 1
Author bear123 Posted September 10, 2018 Author Posted September 10, 2018 Stop feeling sorry for other people and start focusing on your own behavior. You were accepting of him being in contact with his ex when you were engaging with him. Just like his current girlfriend, you need to figure out why you tolerated behavior that wasn't right for you. You're harping on this because now that he has chosen another woman, you've defined him moving on as a result of your own worth. You feel something is wrong with you and that is why you are seeking validation from others as to what he really felt for you. Stop doing that -- and as Smackie mentioned, you're only putting yourself in a bad light. This was never going to work. Find consolation that he ended it and now you are able to move on rather than being indefinitely stuck in a "going nowhere" situation. Stop trying to find answers. Start finding acceptance. It's even worse that I messaged him yesterday saying I'll always love him and hes special to me and he just ignored it. He treated me bad and I say this stuff to him He used to call me ugly and a loser etc but at one point he was saying I was his dream girl and that I was beautiful. He's been playing mind games with me all along. I do feel stupid for letting someone walk all over me like that that's why I can't get over it and I'm depressed. And I don't see how wanting answers is putting me in a bad light when he was the one who said he loved me and suddenly he says hes over me. It's hurting me how he lets her be a bitch to me when I haven;'t really done anything wrong and I know she makes me look like the bad one by telling him things and I bet she doesn't show him the stuff she says to me.
Author bear123 Posted September 10, 2018 Author Posted September 10, 2018 Stop feeling sorry for other people and start focusing on your own behavior. You were accepting of him being in contact with his ex when you were engaging with him. Just like his current girlfriend, you need to figure out why you tolerated behavior that wasn't right for you. You're harping on this because now that he has chosen another woman, you've defined him moving on as a result of your own worth. You feel something is wrong with you and that is why you are seeking validation from others as to what he really felt for you. Stop doing that -- and as Smackie mentioned, you're only putting yourself in a bad light. This was never going to work. Find consolation that he ended it and now you are able to move on rather than being indefinitely stuck in a "going nowhere" situation. Stop trying to find answers. Start finding acceptance. Can I just say also at the beginning he would show me screenshots of him telling her they need to be distant but I realise he made excuses to keep her around. If he loves her so much why doesn't he get back with her
smackie9 Posted September 10, 2018 Posted September 10, 2018 now did he call you ugly through text? If he did, I bet money on it it was her because he was hanging out with her.
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