lin8 Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 Last 2 months, we had 2 fights about something stupid. I was the one who reached out and apologized on both occasions. I said we can learn to handle things better next time. Last week, we were texting each other. He said he went shopping at a store. I asked him "Why did you go there? Who did you go with?" He said "Who would I go with? Of course I went by myself. Why are you asking this kind of question? What is wrong with you?" I said, "can you hear what you are saying? You are so mean and rude. I don't want to talk to you anymore." He just went on and on and said "I just wanted to share my experience, now I am not going to anymore" etc etc I was mad, said something else and ended with "I don't want to read your messages, bye" because I was frustrated, hurt, and didn't know what to do. I know that I shouldn't have asked him who he went out with but he didn't have to be so mean and say "What is wrong with you?" I was so upset because I felt my self worth was being attacked. Do people in fights say that? Afterwards we didn't talk or text each other until the 6th day, I texted him, "Are we planning to continue to ignore each other?" I sent him a poster saying *80% of women ignore their partner because they are badly hurt*, I also sent him a link about "how to better handle arguments in relationships". After 4 days he has not opened my messages. What should I do? How long should I wait?
preraph Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 He's tired of your insecurity. It's wearing him out.
CantTakeMySmile Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 I agree with the poster above. May I ask your ages? Is this your first relationship?
Zahara Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 (edited) You note that you agreed to handle things better but at the next turn, you lunge at him just because he went to the store. I can see why he was annoyed and cut you off. Your reaction was immature and insecure. There was no reason for you to be accusatory. Learn to communicate better and to control your emotions and reactions. This whole thing is silly. And learn to take responsibility for your actions rather than blame him for being mean to you when clearly you need to figure out why you react so negatively for no apparent reason. You need to apologize. And after that, let it go and hopefully he reaches out to you. Edited August 9, 2018 by Zahara 1
basil67 Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 Sadly, you're doing a very poor job of handling things better after the previous fights. I agree that he's fed up with your behaviour and is done with the relationship. It's time to move on.
Normm Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 I wouldn't wait any longer, I'd get on with my life.
stillafool Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 What should I do? How long should I wait? Move on. He's doing the slow fade. Stop apologizing, you sound weak.
guest569 Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 Oh dear.. Were you just asking out of curiosity? I'm curious to know what the previous fights were about. I agree that "what is wrong with you?" is harsh and would hurt. But why not communicate that instead of send a fake statistic meme and an article?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 You're communicating very poorly, OP, and he's tired of it. You go on the attack when he goes to the store? No wonder he called you out. I would have, too. Then you send him a passive-aggressive post about how women ignore their partners because they're hurt, and how to handle arguments? Come on now, girl. That was not the way to handle this. What were your previous fights about? This all sounds so tiring, and I think he's done.
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