Author Britney25 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 How did you two meet? He found me on facebook. He was trying to ask me out for a year before I finally said yes to a date 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 He found me on facebook. He was trying to ask me out for a year before I finally said yes to a date What do you two have in common?
Author Britney25 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 What do you two have in common? Well we are both European, we love the same cuisines, hes not a party boy and I'm not a party girl. He is close to his family as am I. Loves tennis just like me. That's all for now ...I'm still learning about him. On the second date he was asking me about sex. What is the craziest place I have done it. How many guys I had. He wanted to know about my past relationships.
Author Britney25 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 What do you two have in common? He loves to touch my knee a lot, back of my neck and hair. But the only thing I didnt like was when he was forcing the french kissing..I was telling him to behave but he kept going at it. It was a public place...a casual restaurant in a garden. I am very reserved to that.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 Well we are both European, we love the same cuisines, hes not a party boy and I'm not a party girl. He is close to his family as am I. Loves tennis just like me. That's all for now ...I'm still learning about him. On the second date he was asking me about sex. What is the craziest place I have done it. How many guys I had. He wanted to know about my past relationships. That seems like a bigger red flag than the french kissing. How did that make you feel? 3
Author Britney25 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 That seems like a bigger red flag than the french kissing. How did that make you feel? It made me feel ok . I didnt feel bad or uncomfortable at all.
Author Britney25 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 That seems like a bigger red flag than the french kissing. How did that make you feel? He knows honestly that I dont sleep with anyone unless I'm in a committed relationship. Unless he thinks he can break me?
d0nnivain Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 On the second date he was asking me about sex. What is the craziest place I have done it. How many guys I had. He wanted to know about my past relationships. Gross! That level of detailed interrogation is indicative of a man who want to control you. He really is all about sex. The more you post the more I think your initial instinct that he just wants one thing is valid. The kissing isn't the problem. His personal prying is the problem. 1
Author Britney25 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 Gross! That level of detailed interrogation is indicative of a man who want to control you. He really is all about sex. The more you post the more I think your initial instinct that he just wants one thing is valid. The kissing isn't the problem. His personal prying is the problem. Maybe he is just a touchy guy? I never felt uncomfortable with him honestly.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 Maybe he is just a touchy guy? I never felt uncomfortable with him honestly. So on my second date we had our first kiss but he went all in and used tongue too...is he being a little to forward? I didnt feel comfortable but every time he initiated a kiss he had to do tongue. Is he really that into me or just too horny? Help a girl out lol Huh? It sounds like you're very unsure.
d0nnivain Posted August 10, 2018 Posted August 10, 2018 Maybe he is just a touchy guy? I never felt uncomfortable with him honestly. You started this by saying you were uncomfortable because of the public French kissing with tongue. IMO the kissing is fine. All the questions & the level of detail he's expecting about your prior sexual experiences is the yucky part. He's too nosy about stuff that is none of his business. That part doesn't make you uncomfortable though, while it's setting off alarms for me. Different strokes I guess. For two dates though there seems to be a great deal of drama & uncertainty. I think this business trip of his forcing you apart is giving you too much time to think & you may be your own worst enemy here. Just sit back & see what happens if he contacts you or when he returns. 1
Author Britney25 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 Huh? It sounds like you're very unsure. I meant I didnt uncomfortable with him when we talked about different subjects.
Author Britney25 Posted August 10, 2018 Author Posted August 10, 2018 You started this by saying you were uncomfortable because of the public French kissing with tongue. IMO the kissing is fine. All the questions & the level of detail he's expecting about your prior sexual experiences is the yucky part. He's too nosy about stuff that is none of his business. That part doesn't make you uncomfortable though, while it's setting off alarms for me. Different strokes I guess. For two dates though there seems to be a great deal of drama & uncertainty. I think this business trip of his forcing you apart is giving you too much time to think & you may be your own worst enemy here. Just sit back & see what happens if he contacts you or when he returns. Yes I will be waiting to see if he does contact me and suggest a 3rd date. I want him to because in sure by the 3rd date I will know if I'm attracted to him to date him more. Anyway if he doesnt contact me withing a week I'm sure he lost interest.
guest569 Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 Was this a French or a Brazilian? I think the additional details you have now provided about him asking you about sex.. changes everything. From 'yeah maybe a bit forward' to 'yikes, this guy has no filter or boundaries'. Seems creepy to me. Edit.. I meant I didnt uncomfortable with him when we talked about different subjects. Well, I guess there is no harm done then. But I find it odd that although the kiss made you uncomfortable - he kept going in with the tongue even though presumably you were not reciprocating. 2
Noproblem Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 I worry more about him asking about your past and sex life from the second date than about the French kiss. But you started defending him now. Weird, I thought you were uncomfortable. 3
Author Britney25 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 I worry more about him asking about your past and sex life from the second date than about the French kiss. But you started defending him now. Weird, I thought you were uncomfortable. Well during the convo he asked me who is off limits for me dating wise. I told him someone who has weird fetishes and that brought on the topic of sex and the weirdest places we have done it. So honestly I thought it went with the flow of the convo. I'm a very chill and confident woman so i can talk about anything really But yes the strong French kissing in a public place was a little too much for me no matter how much I can like a man.
Author Britney25 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 Was this a French or a Brazilian? I think the additional details you have now provided about him asking you about sex.. changes everything. From 'yeah maybe a bit forward' to 'yikes, this guy has no filter or boundaries'. Seems creepy to me. Edit.. Well, I guess there is no harm done then. But I find it odd that although the kiss made you uncomfortable - he kept going in with the tongue even though presumably you were not reciprocating. He is Italian actually and yes I did kiss him back. So today I noticed he just read my WhatsApp thank you message that I sent him and so far he is still not responding anything. Do you think hes analyzing if it's even worth to see me again?
ElKay Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 The fact that you're overanalyzing everything so much makes you sound pretty clingy. Just relax... Once he's back from the trip, then you can assess his interest levels. During my trips, I didn't always have energy to even respond to family and friends, let alone someone I only met twice. I don't see anything wrong with the sex-related questions personally as some people can make it very nonchalant and comfortable to talk about. Remember, he's an older guy and probably feels comfortable about this topic. I once spoke about this before the second date, but we had spoken so much about these topics in between via chat that it felt as natural as asking if you have brothers or sisters. So, I don't agree with certain posters that it's necessarily a red flag in itself.
d0nnivain Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 . Do you think hes analyzing if it's even worth to see me again? No. I think he is on a business trip dealing with the responsibilities & time pressures professional travel brings. He hasn't given you a second thought & won't until he returns home. 2
coolheadal Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 So on my second date we had our first kiss but he went all in and used tongue too...is he being a little to forward? I didnt feel comfortable but every time he initiated a kiss he had to do tongue. Is he really that into me or just too horny? Help a girl out lol You could say stop no you do not like this? He's just kissing the way he wants to deep kiss using the tongue in sexual way. I know some men do this and some don't. I find some women are into it and some are not. Some just want to you to kiss on the cheek, but on the lips it means more than just the cheek is more like you were just friends. On the lips you are much more and then with the tongue they're really digging and into you.
Author Britney25 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 The fact that you're overanalyzing everything so much makes you sound pretty clingy. Just relax... Once he's back from the trip, then you can assess his interest levels. During my trips, I didn't always have energy to even respond to family and friends, let alone someone I only met twice. I don't see anything wrong with the sex-related questions personally as some people can make it very nonchalant and comfortable to talk about. Remember, he's an older guy and probably feels comfortable about this topic. I once spoke about this before the second date, but we had spoken so much about these topics in between via chat that it felt as natural as asking if you have brothers or sisters. So, I don't agree with certain posters that it's necessarily a red flag in itself. Thank you...you're so right.
Author Britney25 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 You could say stop no you do not like this? He's just kissing the way he wants to deep kiss using the tongue in sexual way. I know some men do this and some don't. I find some women are into it and some are not. Some just want to you to kiss on the cheek, but on the lips it means more than just the cheek is more like you were just friends. On the lips you are much more and then with the tongue they're really digging and into you. Yeah cool. I need to relax more that's for sure.
Author Britney25 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 No. I think he is on a business trip dealing with the responsibilities & time pressures professional travel brings. He hasn't given you a second thought & won't until he returns home. One last question. Was my thank you text OK? This is what I said " Hey handsome! How is Brazil? Thank you for the other night, it was nice ;-)"
Author Britney25 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 The fact that you're overanalyzing everything so much makes you sound pretty clingy. Just relax... Once he's back from the trip, then you can assess his interest levels. During my trips, I didn't always have energy to even respond to family and friends, let alone someone I only met twice. I don't see anything wrong with the sex-related questions personally as some people can make it very nonchalant and comfortable to talk about. Remember, he's an older guy and probably feels comfortable about this topic. I once spoke about this before the second date, but we had spoken so much about these topics in between via chat that it felt as natural as asking if you have brothers or sisters. So, I don't agree with certain posters that it's necessarily a red flag in itself. One last question. Was my thank you text OK? This is what I said " Hey handsome! How is Brazil? Thank you for the other night, it was nice ;-)"
Sunlight72 Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 One last question. Was my thank you text OK? This is what I said " Hey handsome! How is Brazil? Thank you for the other night, it was nice ;-)"Sure, that's great. Realize that you should stop expecting and hoping for him to reply until after he's home. While it 'only takes a second' to reply, it will take some thought (meaning he shouldn't reply until he's in a somewhat private place and time), and if he replies, of course he should also allow time for you to reply, and some back and forth. Otherwise, you'll be back here asking, "we were finally chatting, and right in the middle his answers got short, and then he ghosted me! What's wrong? Just chill. Do other things. If he's been pursuing you on facebook or what ever for a year, then he is not going to evaporate unless you chase him off. 1
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