dateme Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 If love is right folks should gt married. But I wonder if women respect the fact that if a dude asks your hand in marriage it's a big deal to him and his family. They won't ask just any woman to do that. Does that mean anything to them?
Gaeta Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 If love is right folks should gt married. Says who? But I wonder if women respect the fact that if a dude asks your hand in marriage it's a big deal to him and his family. They won't ask just any woman to do that. Does that mean anything to them? I know men and women that have married for their citizenship. It meant something for one and not so much for the other. There are many reasons people marry. It doesn't mean the same thing for everybody. Some it's for religious reasons, other it's for the legal security it will bring them, others it's for a big party or because it's what society dictated to them and they go along without questioning it too much. .
MountainGirl111 Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 If love is right folks should gt married. But I wonder if women respect the fact that if a dude asks your hand in marriage it's a big deal to him and his family. They won't ask just any woman to do that. Does that mean anything to them? Of course it means something to them....at least I hope...most people take marriage seriously. It's a very big deal. A lot of things should be taken into consideration before people get married. Thank God in many places today they no longer have arranged marriages. And places that used to have arranged marriages have slowly phased it out, like British Royals. Back in the old days marriage among royalty was more about political alliances and world power than about love and companionship. Thus so many of the kings had mistresses and fathered innumerable children. Or just had their current wife put to death so they didn't have to deal with her anymore.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 If love is right folks should gt married. But I wonder if women respect the fact that if a dude asks your hand in marriage it's a big deal to him and his family. They won't ask just any woman to do that. Does that mean anything to them? That is not always the case. I have known some who have married for a passport, a couple of men who married because they felt pressured from their partners and against the wishes of their own families, and another who was too afraid to be alone so he asked a girlfriend he was wishy-washy about. Assuming that all men view marriage very seriously is a generalization, and assuming that if love is right a couple should get married is an opinion not shared by all. Did someone turn down your proposal, OP? I am getting the sense this is post is projection. 1
Normm Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 If love is right folks should gt married. I dislike the word "should" as it implies that there's some sort of rule or law that is to be followed when there is none at all. I have no faith whatsoever in the institution of marriage because it is a failed construct- more than half of first marriages end in divorce, and almost 2/3 of subsequent marriages end in divorce, and a large percentage of those that are still intact are still failures but the parties stay together for the kids or for the money or due to fear of starting over. As far as love being right? Just about everyone who exchanges their lifelong vows is convinced their love is "right". Until of course it isn't.
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