Randomguy51 Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 Hey guys, First, thanks for reading this crap. So there’s this girl I like, and I’ve been interested in her for a few months now. We’ve hung out a lot in different group settings, and we’ve had brief conversations in passing or as part of a larger group conversation. I’ve had this weird feeling that she likes me too because she’ll never look me in the eye and kind of act a little nervous when I’m around her. I’m not much of a social butterfly, so I’ve kind of been waiting for the perfect moment to talk to her and it just hasn’t happened yet! I’m also hesitant because I don’t want to screw things up... I think she got tired of waiting for me to make a move, and just recently she friend requested me on Facebook. She’s spoken to my family members more than we’ve spoken, yet I’m the only one she has added, so I’m pretty sure at this point that there’s at least some interest on her end. But here’s my question - is it weird to message her on Facebook if I haven’t struck up a legitimate 1v1 conversation in person? I don’t want to look like the loser who’s all game to Facebook message but won’t finally break the ice in person. I accepted her friend request and everything. I’m just not sure where to go next. Thanks for your help!
iamme10 Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 One thing I've learned as I've gotten older is that if you want something to happen, you have to find a way to make it happen. There's never a 'perfect moment'. In any case, it sounds like you see this girl fairly often, and there's maybe some level of interest. Theres really only one way to find out... After one of your group settings, as people are heading out, just get her attention and say you just want to talk to her for a minute. Then once you're alone, ask if she'd like to grab coffee sometime with you (or hang out or whatever). Simple as that... if she says yes, then you know theres some interest. If she says no, then you have your answer too. A Facebook message might be an option if you haven't seen her in a while, but in person is probably much better.
MountainGirl111 Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 In today's getting to know you world there are almost too many options. If she's shy...she might warm up better behind a computer. She did a friend request with you so I'd take that as a green light she's interested. If a girl is not interested no way will she want to friend you on facebook, unless you are ALREADY an existing friend in safely in the friend zone. Lack of eye contact could mean just about anything. Maybe she's just cautious at first. If she's nervous around you? I'd say, yeah it's likely she's attracted to you. I don't have super great advice on how to approach her...you could just say 'Hey want to get together for coffee sometime?"
Author Randomguy51 Posted August 8, 2018 Author Posted August 8, 2018 Thanks guys! I’d clarify and say I’m fairly certain that there’s interest on her end. She has even dropped subtle hints here and then to my sister, and there are other factors involved as well. Even the skeptic in me understands that she’s just waiting for me to make a move now, because she’s not the type to be outright and make that first move (though she did send the friend request). Anyway, I guess the question is more along the lines of, is it sort of cowardly on my end to message her on Facebook in response to her request before really speaking and asking her out in person? I’m probably overthinking this, but im definitely wary of what a girl thinks of that
MountainGirl111 Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 Thanks guys! I’d clarify and say I’m fairly certain that there’s interest on her end. She has even dropped subtle hints here and then to my sister, and there are other factors involved as well. Even the skeptic in me understands that she’s just waiting for me to make a move now, because she’s not the type to be outright and make that first move (though she did send the friend request). Anyway, I guess the question is more along the lines of, is it sort of cowardly on my end to message her on Facebook in response to her request before really speaking and asking her out in person? I’m probably overthinking this, but im definitely wary of what a girl thinks of that Oh no, I don't think it would be cowardly at all to message her on Facebook.
Lotsgoingon Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 She friends you or sends a friend request on facebook. That is a move, a step toward you and connecting with you. That's step 1! In response, if you are interested in her, yes you can also make a move ... Now we don't know what will ultimately come of the moves ... but someone friends you on fb and you're wondering if it's appropriate to contact them on fb? ... You can reply to her Step 1! ... And talk to her on fb. Why else would you friend you?! Say hi and start a conversation! She was bold to take that first step and you're really thinking of leaving her hanging--even though you like her? Go for it! 1
Author Randomguy51 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 Thanks, everyone! I decided to go ahead and ask her out and she said yes! Getting coffee tomorrow. Anyone have tips for shy guys? I’ve been on first dates before but I want to make a good impsession and have become more and more shy over the past few years so I’m anticipating things being a little different haha.
Doost Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 My tip do a walk or some activity rather than coffee.
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