max3732 Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 As I posted previously I met someone and have gone now gone out with her twice and she wants to get together again soon. How often is too much when you first start dating? I left our date today with a giddy, elated feeling I haven't felt in years. I'm still a bit surprised by my good fortune to meet her and that she wants to go out again. As excited as I am I don't want to overdo it and also don't want to mess it up. A 3rd date or more would be uncharted territory for me.
CollegeKid101 Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 As I posted previously I met someone and have gone now gone out with her twice and she wants to get together again soon. How often is too much when you first start dating? I left our date today with a giddy, elated feeling I haven't felt in years. I'm still a bit surprised by my good fortune to meet her and that she wants to go out again. As excited as I am I don't want to overdo it and also don't want to mess it up. A 3rd date or more would be uncharted territory for me. I don't think there is anything wrong with meeting up again soon. Once or twice a week to start is good, but once you're past date 5 or so, I don't think it matters. If she wants to hang out, hang out with her!! The worst thing that can happen is she loses interest eventually, but I believe that's usually preset. Feelings are strange and when they're real, they won't stop.
Lotsgoingon Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 I'm hearing a literal question ... but I'm also wondering if you are asking a deeper question. To the literal question, I think of twice a week as a good number, though I have no idea how logical that is ... it's just what seems to have worked for me in the past. In between meetings you can talk if you want ... do some texting ... though try to keep that under control. There is a lot of texting that gets out of control. Sounds like you're dying to see her again ... and soon ... but yeah, spread it out ... you can kill things by being with each other too much too soon ... over time you can up the frequency of meetings. 1
I'veseenbetterlol Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 As I posted previously I met someone and have gone now gone out with her twice and she wants to get together again soon. How often is too much when you first start dating? I left our date today with a giddy, elated feeling I haven't felt in years. I'm still a bit surprised by my good fortune to meet her and that she wants to go out again. As excited as I am I don't want to overdo it and also don't want to mess it up. A 3rd date or more would be uncharted territory for me. As soon as we can set up another date w/in reason. There is a balance, my bf and I saw each other quite often after our 1st date, but we also had boundaries knowing we both had work and errands. 1
Author max3732 Posted August 8, 2018 Author Posted August 8, 2018 I'm hearing a literal question ... but I'm also wondering if you are asking a deeper question. To the literal question, I think of twice a week as a good number, though I have no idea how logical that is ... it's just what seems to have worked for me in the past. In between meetings you can talk if you want ... do some texting ... though try to keep that under control. There is a lot of texting that gets out of control. Sounds like you're dying to see her again ... and soon ... but yeah, spread it out ... you can kill things by being with each other too much too soon ... over time you can up the frequency of meetings. Thanks! It's been so long since I've had an opportunity like this that I'm extremely nervous and excited. Partially I'm afraid I'm going to ruin it if I overdo it.
passenger1991 Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 Couple of times a week as others have suggested is pretty good in the early stages I think. Gives her time to think about you, build anticipation for the next meeting... and lets her know you have stuff going on in your own world. If you start wanting to meet all the time with her straight away she's gonna see you as someone who has nothing going on and she's your only focus. Once you guys are moving things along and it's clear you guys are gonna be setting up a relationship then start going out more.
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