Borboleta Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 We made contact last Thursday (today is Tuesday) on a dating website, and I felt we hit it off. Friday, Sat and Sun we talked for an hour on the phone. Monday (yesterday) am he sent me a message with the name of a book he had mentioned and I asked for the details. Then he said he was busy with work. I do know he works 12h shifts and that this week will be a lot of pressure for him. Then after yesterday in the morning, he disappeared, didn't hear anything last night or today either... Has he lost interest? Just busy? Should I say hi?
basil67 Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 Of course you can say Hi. Especially if you're yet to initiate conversation. 1
hippychick3 Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 Why did he not suggest meeting over the weekend? I don't understand making contact on a Thursday and not setting something up for Friday, Sat, or Sunday. Online dating is just a medium to meet people, not to "date online." I suggest you keep looking and expect to meet up in person (providing you like the guy) as soon as possible rather than waste hours texting and calling before even meeting the person.
Author Borboleta Posted August 7, 2018 Author Posted August 7, 2018 He asked what I was doing Saturday night... but I had just moved on Thursday and had to organize my things. Then Sunday he asked what I am doing for the week and I'm so very busy because my best friend gets married and there's all kinds of things to organize and my car is at the body shop fixing some damage and I'm so packed this week... Maybe he got disappointed because I'm so unavailable... But I did say I want to meet in person... Should I give him a call tonight to check how he's doing?
hippychick3 Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 He asked what I was doing Saturday night... but I had just moved on Thursday and had to organize my things. Then Sunday he asked what I am doing for the week and I'm so very busy because my best friend gets married and there's all kinds of things to organize and my car is at the body shop fixing some damage and I'm so packed this week... Maybe he got disappointed because I'm so unavailable... But I did say I want to meet in person... Should I give him a call tonight to check how he's doing? Ahhh, I see. I am guessing he thought you were not really interested in meeting and pulled back. Most people on the sites are there to actually meet someone in person and have had enough experience to know that those who avoid getting together are either not that interested, not available, or not who they say they are. Honestly, if you had time to spend hours texting him, why not use that time to meet up for a coffee or drink?
Author Borboleta Posted August 7, 2018 Author Posted August 7, 2018 Hi Well, I had time to talk to him on the phone because my daughter is visiting. We talked after she went to bed... I'll reach out to him and make a plan to meet soon. I appreciate your opinion! 1
Juha Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 Well, he did ask twice to try and make plans with you to meet and you rejected both times without offering when you were available. If I ask a woman out twice and she says she is busy but says she wants to see me without offering a day/time of when she is available I write her off as not really interested/game player. You need to take the initiative now if you want to met him as he is probably moving on thinking you are not interested I wish you luck
d0nnivain Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 I think he's feeling rejected. You are legitimately busy but he doesn't know that because he doesn't know you. On his end, it looks like you are putting up road blocks or are a serial time waster who only wants to talk on the phone. Ball is in your court. Stop sitting on your hands & initiate contact. If you can't bring yourself to set up a meeting & prefer to wait for him to make the 1st move (which will really be the 3rd move), make yourself available to meet him. If you really can't do whatever date / time he suggests, give a counter time & work with him until you have concrete plans nailed down.
Author Borboleta Posted August 8, 2018 Author Posted August 8, 2018 I texted him at the end of the day and he answered right away then I asked if he'd be available to talk on the phone in 30mn; I called him and we planned it. I didn't that because he asked what plans I had for Saturday night and for the week and I was busy, he would think I wasn't interested. Thank you all!
Juha Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 I texted him at the end of the day and he answered right away then I asked if he'd be available to talk on the phone in 30mn; I called him and we planned it. I didn't that because he asked what plans I had for Saturday night and for the week and I was busy, he would think I wasn't interested. Thank you all! Happy to hear you two are getting together. Have fun and post an update on how things go
hippychick3 Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 I texted him at the end of the day and he answered right away then I asked if he'd be available to talk on the phone in 30mn; I called him and we planned it. I didn't that because he asked what plans I had for Saturday night and for the week and I was busy, he would think I wasn't interested. Thank you all! Good job! Hope you enjoy your date with him.
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