TheGame422 Posted September 4, 2005 Posted September 4, 2005 About 2 years ago I began a serious relationship with a woman who i regard as the love of my life. She and I had NO real problems, no serious fights, no compatibility issues, nothing! Our main problem was that we were both young and we still had issues in regards to being able to see each other as much as we wanted to. After about 8 months of going out, we broke up due to distance. After the dating, we both were still very close and often professed our love to one another as we continued to shape our lives and our futures. However, due to outside circumstances (the IT bubble burst put a strain on both her family and my family that was overcome, thankfully) we were not able to resume a relationship. Being that I entered college last year, we were able to see each other more and more. A few months ago, she asked me to be her boyfriend, and I asked her to just hold out for a month or two till I was able to afford buying a car. During these last two months, however, she and I have grown apart due to our schedules being the EXACT opposites of each other. In summer she worked during the days, while I worked afternoons and evenings. Upon getting my car, I immedietly called her and asked her to resume our relationship. We both had what we needed to allow our relationship to grow without bounds. However, she's said her feelings have changed due to us growing apart. Add in to the fact that she's JUST started college this past month (a college that is about an hour away from my college) also may have contributed to this. Naturally, this left me quite devastated. I felt that fate had pushed us apart for no apparent reason. Add in that after only one week, she now is seeing someone at her college, only added to the hurt. Don't get me wrong, she's been very honest in telling me her feelings and she works very hard to make sure I don't get hurt badly. In these past weeks, she's continued to try to remain on friendly terms with me, NEVER mentioning her new boyfriend. I've realized just how great of a person she is from all this, and that kind of makes it hurt even more. I'm not exactly sure what to do in this situation; the initial pain of her telling me her feelings have changed has subsided, and her being with another guy leaves me with an uneasy feeling, but I'm ok with it. I love her with all my heart (which I'm sure you've all heard a million times on this forum) and would love to have her come back to me...in time. I know right now we are not meant for each other, but I do believe that if we ever got back together, we could handle anything, and I mean ANYTHING. Can anyone give me advice based on my situation? It seems like external factors drove apart what would otherwise be a very beautiful situation. I'm not sure why she's started dating another boy after only knowing him for less than a week, and would also appreciate an opinion on that. And lastly, if anyone has been in a situation like this where they reconciled in the long-term, I would love to hear from you. I'm not the type of guy to take my feelings lightly, and I'm not sure whats going to happen. In the end, I'd like to do whats best for both of us. Thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance for your advices.
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