Linaa Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 Not seeing them on social media. So you don’t see the pictures they post or post that they share. Not texting, calling or FaceTiming them. Or do you just miss them from a distance?
OatsAndHall Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 No contact is the first step.. Block them on social media, block their phone number, and email addresses. I also unfollowed many mutual friends of my ex-wife's on social media so that random pictures didn't pop up. After that, time does heal all wounds. Get out as much as you can, even if you're doing so alone. Dive into hobbies or develop new ones to keep yourself occupied and avoid situations where you're liable to ruminate over the situation. Following my divorce, I worked constantly during the week and then spent my weekends out and about as much as I could. If friends weren't around/available, I would do things on my own such as going to movies, shooting pool, etc..etc.. And, I also suggest avoiding the dating scene until you've moved past your ex. It's not fair to the people you date and you can end up in some dead-end relationships. I started dating far too soon after my divorce because I was depressed and lonely. I ignored a lot of red-flags because of my emotional state and ended up with a stalker and then had an LTR with a woman that I wasn't compatible with..
Beachead Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 (edited) Not seeing them on social media. So you don’t see the pictures they post or post that they share. Not texting, calling or FaceTiming them. Or do you just miss them from a distance? For the most part yes. Block and delete. You're going to see all kinds of updates of them smiling with their friends, having their arm around a pretty girl or a good looking guy and it will break your heart each and everytime. Initially, you'll still think about them a lot but over several months, the intensity of the pain, the extreme emotions, will slowly reduce. Sometimes if it's been several months and you feel like you can't move on because you're still holding onto hope, unblocking them and seeing that one painful picture will do it for you. It'll just suck all the hope away and that may coincidently help you move on. Therefore, Social Media is a massive factor in getting over a breakup. You two will not be friends in the immediate future. It is impossible to try with feelings. In order to be genuinely friendly again, both people must learn to live life without one another and learn how find their smile again. Only then is it possible. This can take a few years which means you are forced to let go. The catch is, if an opportunity ever arises to reconnect again, you may not to by then. If you weren't the one that did the breaking up and was the one dumped, you'll miss them for a long time. For the dumpee..it's more about dealing with a rejection of self from a person that meant the absolute world to them. So healing is slower. Grieving is slower. Out of sight-out of mind for the dumpee is the best approach. - Beach Edited August 7, 2018 by Beachead
ExpatInItaly Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 Not seeing them on social media. So you don’t see the pictures they post or post that they share. Not texting, calling or FaceTiming them. Or do you just miss them from a distance? In my experience, yes. This all helps to move on. So does creating new memories and experiences for yourself, of things you want to do and achieve.
Young mind Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 Not necessarily “faster” but the beginning of a process, and all it takes is time, if you were the lucky 13 like me to have been blocked instead, since I can’t even think of unblocking, makes it even better. Soldering on is the only thing you can do.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 Wait, OP, are you asking this because you want your boyfriend to block his ex? Do you fear he's not over her? You created this thread but never answered the questions posed there: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/661456-could-good-sign-he-waiting-her-initiate-conversation-first
d0nnivain Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 Disconnecting off social media helps with the healing because you don't see them moving on without you nor do you read whatever sad emo posts they make to help them & misread them into thinking you still have a chance. Yes, you will still miss the person in the immediate aftermath. It's like not picking at a scab. You have give your heart time to heal, not constantly cause it to re-bleed
fromheart Posted August 8, 2018 Posted August 8, 2018 Not seeing them on social media. So you don’t see the pictures they post or post that they share. Not texting, calling or FaceTiming them. Or do you just miss them from a distance? To be honest I'd say spend less time on social media and get out into the fresh air. Meet people in real life, go to the gym and get healthy, eat and sleep well.
Littlenana Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 I'd say go no contact immediately. Not for them to come back. But for your healing. But they always do come back. Just make sure you are not taken for a ride again.
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