Author crazyguy123 Posted August 9, 2018 Author Posted August 9, 2018 In my opinion, if you two are to continue seeing each other, she has to end things with him completely. An affair is messy. As someone said above, the ideal girl doesn't cheat, I personally wouldn't listen to that advice. I've been here.... I got together with a girl who was seeing a friend of mine at the time. There had been something between us for 2 years but we never acknowledged it because they were together. Anyway, one day we were alone and just couldn't hold off any longer. She broke up with him immediately after (and for the record, me and him are still really good friends, they weren't happy in their relationship and he knew it was coming to an end anyway. We had an open and honest conversation about it.) And.... we were together for 3 very happy years before things went south and I know 100% she never cheated on me and had complete trust in her. She has ended the relationship with him. He’s playing mind games with her. In addition, she plans on moving out at the end of the month.
anduina Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 So, she not only cheated on him, after she ended their marriage, she remains living with him until the end of the month for her own convenience? She sounds like a selfish person.
BaileyB Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 (edited) He's not the other man... he is her husband. I wouldn't count my chickens before they hatch... She is still living with him. She has plans to move out... "plans" are just that. You have to wait and see if it actually happens. Assuming that she does move out and wants to be with you... what's to stop her for flirting with another guy at the gym? How secure are you going to feel in the future, if you stay with this girl? I'm sorry, it's not a more "positive" response... Your second post reminds me of the old saying "You can put lipstick on a pig, but in the end... it's still a pig." No matter which way you try to spin it, there is just not much you can do to change the narrative here and the responses are going to be very similar... Edited August 9, 2018 by BaileyB
DKT3 Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 Haha did I hear this right. A woman cheats on her husband, oh well she wasn't happy good for her that's life. But the husband kinda threatened the man she is cheating with and he is a horrible person? Is that the new feminist thing?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 She has ended the relationship with him. He’s playing mind games with her. In addition, she plans on moving out at the end of the month. What does this mean, exactly? Has she already got another place lined up? We advised you in your other thread to step back. It seems you haven't. You can't expect much from a woman who is still married, OP, regardless of why she has or has not formally separated from her husband. This is going to get messy. What did the police tell you to do?
d0nnivain Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 I'm not big on tests but here, I'd stay away until she was moved into the new place. I suppose you could help her move the boxes into the new place but you certainly can't carry boxes out of her marital home for her; what an insult to the stbxh that would be. Once she is at least out of the house you can take up with her again if you like but I'd be shocked if she actually moves out on the time table you have been promised. Search the OM/OW section for all the stories of s/he said they'd leave the marriage for me; it's been a year; what should I do? Good luck
Robert Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 So posters understand if things are a little mixed up 3 threads on the same subject were merged into one, Thanks
kendahke Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 (edited) Haha did I hear this right. A woman cheats on her husband, oh well she wasn't happy good for her that's life. But the husband kinda threatened the man she is cheating with and he is a horrible person? No... you read it wrong. Who gave OP a pass and called the husband horrible? Only the OP, who is male, has done that. Is that the new feminist thing? Non sequitur.. no one is discussing feminism anything in this thread Edited August 9, 2018 by kendahke
DKT3 Posted August 9, 2018 Posted August 9, 2018 No... you read it wrong. Who gave OP a pass and called the husband horrible? Only the OP, who is male, has done that. Non sequitur.. no one is discussing feminism anything in this thread No, I read it right. A poster on this thread is saying that very thing.
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