dateme Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 A friend of mine asked me if I was dating anyone. Then I told her no I just casually date until I mesh with a person. Then she told me she has been married for 15 years but they separated for 2 years. They recently got back together but they aren't compatible at all. It sounded like she was sharing how he's on the way out. But not sure. Later in the day she left me a post on FB tagging me saying she was glad to run into me today. I responded the same. We exchanged numbers on messenger. I've known her casually for a year. Bot sure if she likes me more than a friend or if she is asking for another girl. I've had that happen before. Women are confusing.
basil67 Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 This could easily be just friendly conversation or romantic interest. There's no way to know based on what you've written here. The bigger question is: are you interested in her? If you're not, the question about her intentions is a moot point. 1
Author dateme Posted August 5, 2018 Author Posted August 5, 2018 This could easily be just friendly conversation or romantic interest. There's no way to know based on what you've written here. The bigger question is: are you interested in her? If you're not, the question about her intentions is a moot point. Good point. 1
FMW Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 I sometimes ask really direct questions of my guy friends about their relationships out of curiosity, wanting to get the viewpoint of a guy. If her marriage is rocky maybe she's just looking for a guy to run things by and she was seeing if you had relationship experiences that might be useful in her situation. Or maybe she was testing the waters to see if you were available because she's interested in you. Or both.
Author dateme Posted August 5, 2018 Author Posted August 5, 2018 I sometimes ask really direct questions of my guy friends about their relationships out of curiosity, wanting to get the viewpoint of a guy. If her marriage is rocky maybe she's just looking for a guy to run things by and she was seeing if you had relationship experiences that might be useful in her situation. Or maybe she was testing the waters to see if you were available because she's interested in you. Or both. Lol. Which is why I started the thread.
FMW Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 I think you'll probably just have to wait and see what happens. No way to tell right now.
act00 Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 It seems she's interested, but a bad situation to get involved in. She has not let go of her ex or had a healing period of time. She separated from her marriage, and then got back together, where she exists now, stating she's done and wants to be removed from it, but hasn't actually removed herself from it...she's still married, and she's still dealing with the emotional drama of splitting, separating, and divorcing...or never divorcing...she's still knee-deep in her relationship. No...just No. I'm not sure it matters what her intentions are, with her contacting you through social media, and whether or not she's interested in you or putting out the feelers to one of your friends or some social media friend...it doesn't bode well in any direction. You don't want to get involved with her, and you certainly don't want to put one of your friends in contact with her. She's married. She left, she went back to her husband, and she's still in it, and she can lament six ways to Tuesday how bad her marriage is is and how he's just "a friend" and they live separate lives and what-not, she's still married and she's not out. If you want to take your chances and leap into this shark-pool of a mess, fine, but please do not be the conduit in getting her involved with any of your friends. Honestly, I think she's worthy of blocking her from seeing friend lists if that option is available, so that she doesn't hit up all your friends. The situation is just plain messy...do not get involved.
Author dateme Posted August 6, 2018 Author Posted August 6, 2018 The thread isn't to show my desire for her. But to ask about the situation. Guys have to put up with this stuff.
alphamale Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 A friend of mine asked me if I was dating anyone. Then I told her no I just casually date until I mesh with a person. Then she told me she has been married for 15 years but they separated for 2 years. They recently got back together but they aren't compatible at all. It sounded like she was sharing how he's on the way out. But not sure. Later in the day she left me a post on FB tagging me saying she was glad to run into me today. I responded the same. We exchanged numbers on messenger. I've known her casually for a year. Bot sure if she likes me more than a friend or if she is asking for another girl. I've had that happen before. Women are confusing. dude, this chick digs you 1
Author dateme Posted August 6, 2018 Author Posted August 6, 2018 dude, this chick digs you We're friends. I'll keep it at that. But you never know. How can you tell?
alphamale Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 How can you tell? chicks don't ask you if you're dating someone unless they themselves are interested 1
basil67 Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 chicks don't ask you if you're dating someone unless they themselves are interested Yes we do. It's part of conversation.
basil67 Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 The thread isn't to show my desire for her. But to ask about the situation. Guys have to put up with this stuff. Women have to deal with this too. Hence a whole book with the title "He's just not that into you" to help women figure it out. It's not just a woman > man thing.
mortensorchid Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 She's asking because she wants to know. And she wants to know because she may be interested. MAY be. But if you are available, do you like her as well?
Author dateme Posted August 6, 2018 Author Posted August 6, 2018 Women have to deal with this too. Hence a whole book with the title "He's just not that into you" to help women figure it out. It's not just a woman > man thing. Dating is confusing.
Author dateme Posted August 6, 2018 Author Posted August 6, 2018 It seems she's interested, but a bad situation to get involved in. She has not let go of her ex or had a healing period of time. She separated from her marriage, and then got back together, where she exists now, stating she's done and wants to be removed from it, but hasn't actually removed herself from it...she's still married, and she's still dealing with the emotional drama of splitting, separating, and divorcing...or never divorcing...she's still knee-deep in her relationship. No...just No. I'm not sure it matters what her intentions are, with her contacting you through social media, and whether or not she's interested in you or putting out the feelers to one of your friends or some social media friend...it doesn't bode well in any direction. You don't want to get involved with her, and you certainly don't want to put one of your friends in contact with her. She's married. She left, she went back to her husband, and she's still in it, and she can lament six ways to Tuesday how bad her marriage is is and how he's just "a friend" and they live separate lives and what-not, she's still married and she's not out. If you want to take your chances and leap into this shark-pool of a mess, fine, but please do not be the conduit in getting her involved with any of your friends. Honestly, I think she's worthy of blocking her from seeing friend lists if that option is available, so that she doesn't hit up all your friends. The situation is just plain messy...do not get involved. I wasn't going to. Lol.
kendahke Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 A friend of mine asked me if I was dating anyone. Then I told her no I just casually date until I mesh with a person. Then she told me she has been married for 15 years but they separated for 2 years. They recently got back together but they aren't compatible at all. It sounded like she was sharing how he's on the way out. But not sure. Later in the day she left me a post on FB tagging me saying she was glad to run into me today. I responded the same. We exchanged numbers on messenger. I've known her casually for a year. Bot sure if she likes me more than a friend or if she is asking for another girl. I've had that happen before. Women are confusing. Well, here--let me make this simple for you: leave married women alone. If you need to know who she's asking for, then open your mouth, own your voice and ask her point blank. She was taking your temperature to see if you're amenable to an affair. Don't friend her on facebook, don't text with her. Let her make her separation into an executed divorce decree first before you invest one nanosecond of your life and energy into what is, right now, a dead end situationship. She and her husband are compatible enough to not have set foot in a lawyers office or to have filed anything, so just stop yourself from going down that path.
Author dateme Posted August 6, 2018 Author Posted August 6, 2018 Well, here--let me make this simple for you: leave married women alone. If you need to know who she's asking for, then open your mouth, own your voice and ask her point blank. She was taking your temperature to see if you're amenable to an affair. Don't friend her on facebook, don't text with her. Let her make her separation into an executed divorce decree first before you invest one nanosecond of your life and energy into what is, right now, a dead end situationship. She and her husband are compatible enough to not have set foot in a lawyers office or to have filed anything, so just stop yourself from going down that path. We were already friends. She asked this out of the blue. That's why it caught me off guard. We'll still be friends.
coolheadal Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 Dating is confusing. Stay friends with her until she is completely divorce. If you are still available?She might want her cake and pie playing both you and the husband. She's married for 15 years separated by 2 years total married by 17 years or is just total of 15 years. She's still married no matter what she tells you. Give can't give you 100% of her yet. After she divorces she needs time to cope.. She's not out of the fire and yet she wants to get back into the kitchen.
kendahke Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 We were already friends. She asked this out of the blue. That's why it caught me off guard. We'll still be friends. And some friends should be kept at arm's length until they've cleaned up their messy lives and gotten their divorce handled. She went back to him once--and she will probably go back again despite what she is telling you right now. Like I said, she is taking your temperature to see if you're down for some side action while she stalls on making her divorce final. Are women really that thin on the ground where you are that you'll go for messy Mary?
Author dateme Posted August 7, 2018 Author Posted August 7, 2018 Stay friends with her until she is completely divorce. If you are still available?She might want her cake and pie playing both you and the husband. She's married for 15 years separated by 2 years total married by 17 years or is just total of 15 years. She's still married no matter what she tells you. Give can't give you 100% of her yet. After she divorces she needs time to cope.. She's not out of the fire and yet she wants to get back into the kitchen. Lol. I don't like her like that. So nothing is going to happen. And I think she just wants some sex. I just shared because it's a topic that is confusing. And I probably won't even have sex with her. It came out of the blue with all these questions she was asking.
Author dateme Posted August 7, 2018 Author Posted August 7, 2018 And some friends should be kept at arm's length until they've cleaned up their messy lives and gotten their divorce handled. She went back to him once--and she will probably go back again despite what she is telling you right now. Like I said, she is taking your temperature to see if you're down for some side action while she stalls on making her divorce final. Are women really that thin on the ground where you are that you'll go for messy Mary? Very interesting.
basil67 Posted August 7, 2018 Posted August 7, 2018 I think she just wants some sex. What has she done or said to make you think she wants sex? Has she increased the amount she touches you on the arm? Giving you back massages? Women ask about their friend's dating lives as a standard part of conversation, so you'd want a lot more clues than this to make such an assumption of her motives.
Author dateme Posted August 7, 2018 Author Posted August 7, 2018 What has she done or said to make you think she wants sex? Has she increased the amount she touches you on the arm? Giving you back massages? Women ask about their friend's dating lives as a standard part of conversation, so you'd want a lot more clues than this to make such an assumption of her motives. Well I'm just going to be friends no matter what. Like I shared there is no interest like that on my part but it's too hard to decipher all of this stuff.
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