MountainGirl111 Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 I had a really good chat with him. I told him I am concerned that we're moving too fast, even though we're not doing anything I don't want to do, I do feel like we are progressing quite quickly and that does scare me when I know that I'm still healing from this breakup. He was sweet, he said that he knows he can get carried away but he doesn't care how slow I want to take it, he's happy to wait! The thing is its not like I actually want to slow down, i just feel like we should) He did reassure me quite a bit though, I said like I don't understand where all this came from, I never knew he liked me before, and he went right back to the first time we met (which I barely remember) and said that he liked that I was quiet but not shy, that i didn't feel the need to talk for the sake of it, he said "not like me, I'm an attention seeking d**k", he said his mum used to say that confidence is silent and insecurities are loud. He said "This will sound dumb but, I've had some difficult times in my life and I've done some really stupid things but I've always had this vision that one day I'll have my own family and it'll be better than what i had, I'll do better than my own dad, than my step parents, I want a family like what [his sister/my ex] has. Its dumb, and sappy, but I've always had this picture in my mind of like Halloween - cause its my favourite, it was my mums birthday - and of like this big bonfire, pumpkin carving and apple bobbing in the garden with like my three kids and our massive Labrador and going back inside and cuddling up on the sofa and watching spooky movies.. and like I could never really picture my wife, and then I met you, and I just knew... and I know I've gone from telling you we'll slow down to marrying you off with three kids and a dog - but I dont mean it like that, I'm not rushing anything, I just want you to know that I'm serious about this, about you, whatever it takes, you want me to wait and I'll wait, I won't mess you around, I'm all in! I think you and me are worth a shot to see where this goes! AND it should have scared me off, but it didn't! I think its kinda cute that he thinks about stuff like that, he's just not the type of guy that you ever imagine would! Amazing...simply amazing. This man is a keeper, from the sounds of it. He sees you where you are and he knows what he wants and he's wise enough to know you can't rush it....do you know how many people in this world go through life and never ever "get that"? Rare indeed. Incidentally...One of my favorite times of year is in October as well..I love Halloween...but I think the first day of hunting season (opening day, that is) perhaps takes the cake. I know I know...everyone feels so sorry over all those Bambi's out there.....but the truth is the first day of hunting season is extremely special...for many reasons...and for many fond memories. There is just something about Autumn. It's getting colder...the air has turned...perfect time of year to do some baking...oh the smells...but it's still nice enough outside to enjoy the crisp air and smells that go along with it...Apple pie, apple crisp, apple butter, fried apples..baked apples...Bobbing for apples!! Pumpkin bread, pumpkin pie, baked pumpkin, pumpkin cookies... 1
Noproblem Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 You keep saying you are gay it took me right around the middle to realize you are a lesbian not gay and right till the end to realize you are bi, not gay Just don't lose yourself with terminology, who knows himself so early in life. We change! We change so much that we don't even recognize ourselves as times goes by! If you like him, then you are not gay, you are bi or maybe he has the ability to turn lesbian girls into straight ones; he must be a Greek god or something, but whatever, he did it! Now enjoy the ride and see where this is going, you won't be the first or the last girl to switch her sexual orientation I really encourage you to read these 7 myths about sexual orientations https://yoursexualorientation.info/Sexual_Orientation_Myths.php 2
Noproblem Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 I had a really good chat with him. I told him I am concerned that we're moving too fast, even though we're not doing anything I don't want to do, I do feel like we are progressing quite quickly and that does scare me when I know that I'm still healing from this breakup. He was sweet, he said that he knows he can get carried away but he doesn't care how slow I want to take it, he's happy to wait! The thing is its not like I actually want to slow down, i just feel like we should) He did reassure me quite a bit though, I said like I don't understand where all this came from, I never knew he liked me before, and he went right back to the first time we met (which I barely remember) and said that he liked that I was quiet but not shy, that i didn't feel the need to talk for the sake of it, he said "not like me, I'm an attention seeking d**k", he said his mum used to say that confidence is silent and insecurities are loud. He said "This will sound dumb but, I've had some difficult times in my life and I've done some really stupid things but I've always had this vision that one day I'll have my own family and it'll be better than what i had, I'll do better than my own dad, than my step parents, I want a family like what [his sister/my ex] has. Its dumb, and sappy, but I've always had this picture in my mind of like Halloween - cause its my favourite, it was my mums birthday - and of like this big bonfire, pumpkin carving and apple bobbing in the garden with like my three kids and our massive Labrador and going back inside and cuddling up on the sofa and watching spooky movies.. and like I could never really picture my wife, and then I met you, and I just knew... and I know I've gone from telling you we'll slow down to marrying you off with three kids and a dog - but I dont mean it like that, I'm not rushing anything, I just want you to know that I'm serious about this, about you, whatever it takes, you want me to wait and I'll wait, I won't mess you around, I'm all in! I think you and me are worth a shot to see where this goes! AND it should have scared me off, but it didn't! I think its kinda cute that he thinks about stuff like that, he's just not the type of guy that you ever imagine would! Omg so cute 1
MountainGirl111 Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 October. Transcendental moment. Mid October, but for some reason still warm/sunny. Soaked it in. Ended up near the end of a long dirt road out in the middle of NO WHERE in the mountains in the middle of Idaho of all places at some natural hot springs where wearing bathing suits was optional after 8 pm?? OMG-actually after soaking in the hot springs for awhile, it made us feel so relaxed and like our skin was so soft. Bergdorf.
Author Sparkes Posted August 12, 2018 Author Posted August 12, 2018 Amazing...simply amazing. This man is a keeper, from the sounds of it. He sees you where you are and he knows what he wants and he's wise enough to know you can't rush it....do you know how many people in this world go through life and never ever "get that"? Rare indeed. Mmm, I know, there's so much more depth to him than what meets the eye! I'd like to introduce him to my family soon, maybe next week. Obviously they have met Luke but only as my ex's somewhat wayward adopted brother and I'd really like them to meet him properly now as the man that's my boyfriend... It's quite a big deal because my they really liked my ex, she was close with my family (as I was with hers), and because he'll be the first GUY I've ever taken home (it'll be like 'coming out' for the second time haha). Incidentally...One of my favorite times of year is in October as well..I love Halloween...but I think the first day of hunting season (opening day, that is) perhaps takes the cake. I know I know...everyone feels so sorry over all those Bambi's out there.....but the truth is the first day of hunting season is extremely special...for many reasons...and for many fond memories. There is just something about Autumn. It's getting colder...the air has turned...perfect time of year to do some baking...oh the smells...but it's still nice enough outside to enjoy the crisp air and smells that go along with it...Apple pie, apple crisp, apple butter, fried apples..baked apples...Bobbing for apples!! Pumpkin bread, pumpkin pie, baked pumpkin, pumpkin cookies... Ahhh you are selling it to me!!! Absolutely love apple pie - my nannas secret ingredient was a layer of peanut butter at the bottom of the pie 1
Author Sparkes Posted August 12, 2018 Author Posted August 12, 2018 You keep saying you are gay it took me right around the middle to realize you are a lesbian not gay and right till the end to realize you are bi, not gay Oh really! Ah sorry did I make that confusing!! Yeah, well, the bi thing is all new ground to me too i've certainly never identified myself as bi before. Just don't lose yourself with terminology, who knows himself so early in life. We change! We change so much that we don't even recognise ourselves as times goes by! Yeah very true! I guess I just thought I had everything figured out and it turns out I don't! I still feel confused about the whole gay/straight/bi thing, I don't know where I'm at with all that, I just know that I've really fallen for him! If you like him, then you are not gay, you are bi or maybe he has the ability to turn lesbian girls into straight ones; he must be a Greek god or something, but whatever, he did it! He would certainly like to think of it like that Now enjoy the ride and see where this is going, you won't be the first or the last girl to switch her sexual orientation Haha true!!! I really encourage you to read these 7 myths about sexual orientations https://yoursexualorientation.info/Sexual_Orientation_Myths.php I'll give it a read! Thanks! 1
Author Sparkes Posted August 12, 2018 Author Posted August 12, 2018 October. Transcendental moment. Mid October, but for some reason still warm/sunny. Soaked it in. Ended up near the end of a long dirt road out in the middle of NO WHERE in the mountains in the middle of Idaho of all places at some natural hot springs where wearing bathing suits was optional after 8 pm?? OMG-actually after soaking in the hot springs for awhile, it made us feel so relaxed and like our skin was so soft. Bergdorf. Sounds Amazing!!
anduina Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 If you're still confused about your sexual orientation, look into the Kinsey scale of human sexuality which can be fluid. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale
Author Sparkes Posted August 14, 2018 Author Posted August 14, 2018 If you're still confused about your sexual orientation, look into the Kinsey scale of human sexuality which can be fluid. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale I will have a look, thank you! I am still confused about that element of everything... and I know that it’s going to confuse other people as well ...I guess this is why at the end of the day feelings/romance/love it’s more than just science - and I guess that’s why it’s really really hard to put a label on!!
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