RN2017 Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 (edited) My car stopped working a few days ago. My guy friend who I have been see off and on is a mechanic and fix and sell cars. So a few weeks ago I asked him to fix something for me he said he would told me he was going to call me when game goes off never did. Then a day later he ask is he seeing me. I said no see who you were seeing that night he said he never left home. So I asked him for his associate number who works with him so I can get my car fixed. So the guy fixed the breaks and I told him my guy friend everything he did. Long story short he didnÂ’t like the guy going the way extra mile for me bc the next thing I know the guy is texting me asking me to hook him up with my friend. Basically my guy friend let him know in some type of way I am off limits. So fast forward to my car not working I texted him and asked did he know someone who does transmission work or do you do it. He asked what car and what year I gave him my car info he said no. I wondering why he asked that info I guess to see if itÂ’s my car. Then I called him he is like just buy a new car. So I found the card of his associate that fixed the brakes and it says he does transmission work . Why lie and tell me no? My friend says he doesnÂ’t want me around no other man and he is afraid to lose me. Idk know what to think ... it hurts to know he would lie to me knowing I need help with my car. He hasnÂ’t offered or asked me about my car. I am confused does he care or not. Should I confront him for lying to me? Edited August 5, 2018 by RN2017 Title
d0nnivain Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 You should accept the fact that your so called friend is manipulative & controlling. He won't do the work for you but he gets upset if somebody else does it. Rubbish. He's no friend.
smackie9 Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 I'm assuming your friend tried to get with you but you told him you only see him as a friend right? If so, he's acting out at your rejection. He's all bitter, lashing out at you by lying and not helping you while at the same time is being possessive and jealous, because of his feelings for you. He is being toxic with his manipulation/trying to control you like d0nnivain. My recommendation is to cut this guy out of your life. Time to move on and bring peace to your well being.
act00 Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 Your post is a mish-mash of I don't know what's going on. It's a perfectly normal question to ask make and model of your car. This is pretty standard...across the board...no judgement or criticism, make and model and year is standard and necessary knowledge. If your "backyard mechanic" does not have the tools or ability to work with your car's issues depending on year, make, model, diagnostics, specialty equipment, new vs. old car...then he will have to say no, or yes, depending on the car and the abilities of the "side job" mechanic. I mean, maybe he can get away with some "deals" through work...maybe...depending on the person and situation, but don't expect the employer to foot the bill on free labor when paying customers are available and waiting. I worked veterinary for years. My family were offered minor discounts...minor...this wasn't a free-for-all and extended to immediate family only; not all my friends and cousins or boyfriends. My husband was a mechanic, and parts could be bought wholesale and the work was "free"...off hours, if the company allowed it...insurance and liability issues played a role at work...it's not like we had all the necessary tools in our home garage. This guy is a boyfriend, not your personal mechanic who has free resources. You can't expect him to have the ability to offer you free labor through his job...not happening...and you are completely unreasonable to expect the employer to foot the bill for your mechanical needs. You will have to fork over money, at least in the form of appointment and labor...maybe you can get the parts wholesale, but you you still have to pay for the parts. Your "guy friend" that you see "on and off" was especially more attractive to you as a boyfriend when you are in a state of dire need. Has he been blowing you off or have you been blowing him off? It seems to me, he wants little to do with you, and you need to lick your wounds and move on. Maybe he's been stringing you along, and this issue with your car has become the big, glaring clue, he's just not into you, but he likes keeping you around "just in case," once in awhile. If you have been lackadaisical with him, his response is warranted. Why would he bother? The bottom line is, if you're expecting "free labor," this is likely to be done under the umbrella of the employer, who will ultimately be responsible for injuries and mishaps and damage to your car and personal equipment that my occur with the employee under their roof and the car being worked on...the answer is likely to be "no" by the employer who has a lot to lose if something goes wrong. Don't be unreasonable.
preraph Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 Maybe he thinks you're just using him. So if you like him romantically, you better ask him out -- and not ask him to fix your car in the future. And if you're not interested in him, just google and find a good neighborhood mechanic and pay them like everyone else.
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