How to deal with regret?

[Borntoelevate]

I’ve read some of this thread and I can almost identically relate to the OP. The difference was, I was too immature to be committed. I also didn’t know myself enough and thought she was actually holding me back in terms of what I felt I needed to do to better myself personally, but after the break up, I realised I just wasn’t being proactive myself with activities that I could have done single or in the relationship with her. She was definitely a keeper and that’s why she found someone new within 1.5 months of us breaking up.

 

Through counselling though, I’ve realised that the way I acted was, to an extent caused by her. I may have acted selfishly but that was in reaction to things she did to me (whether it be that she wasn’t vocal enough about what she wanted/didn’t want for example, or that she didn’t stick it out hard/long enough in the relationship). It’s been 7 months since the break up and for the first 5 months I cried every few days.

 

It definitely still hurts but I am being as proactive as I can to be social. I am trying not to focus on the purpose of seeing girls for a relationship, but more for other reasons.

[Beachead]

Can't help but bump this but damn still hurts and still feel I'll never get over this.

 

It's only been about 2-3 months friend. In the grand scheme of things with healing, that isn't too long. Have patience.

[hope86]

It's only been about 2-3 months friend. In the grand scheme of things with healing, that isn't too long. Have patience.

 

Thank you. I'm so glad you're back and I secretly wish you did private counselling, I would actually pay you for it.

[Beachead]

Thank you. I'm so glad you're back and I secretly wish you did private counselling, I would actually pay you for it.

 

Haha I appreciate that. I'm just like you man. Going through things. heartbroken, lost. Glad I've been able to give you a bit of a boost.

 

Keep fighting for yourself

 

- Beach