Should i be worried that my girlfriend is spending holidays with his male friend?

[Dan_1609]

My girlfriend met a guy from France 2 years ago (he was an exchange student at her university) and now she is going to visit him in France for 10 days and she is going to stay with him at his house (he lives alone). What is worrying me is that at first she tried to hide that she will stay with him. Am i overreacting?

[d0nnivain]

No. You are not overreacting. She's not being transparent.

 

It may be all above board (although I doubt it). She may have simply feared your reaction but that is not good either.

 

 

People who don't have anything to hide don't hide things.

[Highndry]

No, you're not overreacting at all. Dump her. She's looking to cheat.

[Kelliousme]

Yes you should be worried. Now if she had known this guy for like many years (at least 5 years) and you've known about him then you shouldn't have to worry. But she literally met this guy 2 years ago.. which is a really short period of time to even consider him a platonic "close friend". Why is she spending the holiday with him again?

 

Another issue is trust. Do you trust her or can you trust her? Since she kept it a secret at first.. I suggest you talk to her about it and about your concerns. If she cares about you or the relationship at all she would do something about this.

[Doost]

She is cheating on you

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[SevenCity]

Dump her at the airport on her way there.

[Juha]

WOW!!! This woman is shady, shady, shady!!!!!

 

I assume you have never met this guy. She did not want you to know she was going to see him and stay at his place.

 

This woman is not relationship material.

 

I would tell her where I stand and how I feel about this trip and her being less than forthcoming about the details of it.

 

I would see what she says as I am a fair person and give everyone a chance.

 

I would pretty assuredly tell her I think we are not a good match as she has poor boundaries when it comes to your relationship, is selfish, and totally shady, and be done with her.

 

She is not a trustworthy person just going off of what you have posted, if there is more then please share.

 

Don't be anyone's fool! She is being completely disrespectful towards you and your relationship. By her actions your relationship does not mean much to her...

Dump her and find someone who is trustworthy, honest, and not so selfish.

 

I wish you luck

[Gaeta]

Frenchmen could sweet talk panties off a nun, There is no way they'll both be in that apartment for 10 days and nothing happens.

[bachdude]

Has the lack of boundaries with the opposite sex become an epidemic? What's going on? My gosh. Do we have a whole generation of young people who are clueless?

 

No, you are not overreacting. Your gut is right on target. My advice to you is the same I tell everyone. Do not get into a serious relationship and especially do not marry anyone who has boundaries issues with the opposite sex (speaking of heterosexuals here). As a general rule, they push the envelope and get themselves into situations they cannot handle, even if they intend no harm.

 

I rationalized this type of behavior away in the past a paid a dear price so I am hear to tell you, probably as an older and wiser bro than thou, that you may want to consider finding a new GF.

[ExpatInItaly]

No, you're not overreacting.

 

This is completely inappropriate for a woman in a relationship.

[guest569]

This is so dodgy. How long have you been together? If I was going to France I would want to take my boyfriend.