max3732 Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 As I was swiping through profiles on Tinder I came across this incredibly gorgeous woman and when I looked closer I recognized her as someone I met at a church event (long story) a little over 5 years ago. I asked her out then and actually went on a boating activity together, but afterwards I didn't hear from her for a while and lost touch. The only real contact has been on facebook a few years ago when she posted something and I put a funny comment that she told me was hilarious. She's gone through at least 3 boyfriends and last time I saw her profile she was dating someone (it should up when I was scrolling through updates). I checked her facebook today and it shows "single" and has the same profile pic as on tinder. I figure I don't have anything to lose by contacting her again. Obviously I've already got her on facebook, but also have her number. When I contact her should I tell her about seeing her on Tinder or how should I approach her? How should I initiate contact?
SevenCity Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 Matching would be great, but there are many reasons outside of no interest why they might not. OP - sounds like she has low interest. But you have nothing to lose by shooting her a FB message “Hey let’s catch up on the phone” then ask her out if you get her on the phone. But I recommend women who have high interest. Low ones are too much work and more often an exercise in futility. 1
Doost Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 Don’t mention you saw her on tinder. Text her and say something wickedly clever with plausible deniability to the sexual wanton nature. 1
Author max3732 Posted August 2, 2018 Author Posted August 2, 2018 Did you swipe right on her? Did you match??? After giving it some thought I did swipe right, but didn't get a match 1
Author max3732 Posted August 2, 2018 Author Posted August 2, 2018 Matching would be great, but there are many reasons outside of no interest why they might not. OP - sounds like she has low interest. But you have nothing to lose by shooting her a FB message “Hey let’s catch up on the phone” then ask her out if you get her on the phone. But I recommend women who have high interest. Low ones are too much work and more often an exercise in futility. Agree to not waste too much time on women with low interest. With her she's honestly one of the most beautiful women I've ever met in real life. Plus she seemed really sweet. I met her family and friends before so I remember quite a bit about her. One thing I noticed from her posts of facebook is she doesn't end up staying single for long, so I've got to move quickly. Figure it's worth sending a few messages or trying something just in case. She did post something that's easy for me to comment on so I'll give that a try without mentioning Tinder.
DontBreakEven Posted August 2, 2018 Posted August 2, 2018 Yea if you didn't match, don't bother. Trust me. I've tried this before and it's pointless and actually makes me feel less-than, in a way. I also have many women who I don't match with, who look me up on Instagram (since it's tied to my Tinder). I can tell you that 0% of them stand a chance. If they did, I would've swiped right.
Author max3732 Posted August 3, 2018 Author Posted August 3, 2018 Yea if you didn't match, don't bother. Trust me. I've tried this before and it's pointless and actually makes me feel less-than, in a way. I also have many women who I don't match with, who look me up on Instagram (since it's tied to my Tinder). I can tell you that 0% of them stand a chance. If they did, I would've swiped right. Not quite sure how the matching works. If I liked her profile does that mean she'll see mine? I'd never contact someone on Instagram that didn't match on the dating app, but with her because I've been to her house and met a lot of her friends/family already I figured it wouldn't hurt to contact her again. If she doesn't respond I won't feel any worse off. Just sent my message so I'm expecting the worst but hoping for the best.
preraph Posted August 3, 2018 Posted August 3, 2018 Read the instructions for the app you're using so you know if she knew who you were when you didn't match or if it was all done prior and matches drawn from preferences. If it's the former, don't contact her, but I bet it's the latter. If it were me, seeing she's single, I'd message her and say, "Hey, I heard you're single FINALLY. Any chance you'd like to go to dinner with an old church friend? I promise to be a choirboy. [insert angel emogi]"
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