rightondude Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 Not saying he follows the pattern that I do,....but: After a First Date on a weekend. I text on a Monday or Tues, however when I do so I set the next date. I do not do any extra "chit-chat" between the dates. There are specific reasons for this: 1. I you may not be the only "new" woman I am having those "early" dates with. And by the same token I shouldn't be the only guy you are doing the same with. We are not boyfriend/girlfriend yet,...we just met, we are still basically strangers. 2. It build anticipation for the upcoming date. The closer it gets the more the anticipation builds. As days go by he thinks of new things that you can talk about on the date and you are doing the same. When you finally get to see each other you are both very excited to see each other and have a ton of things to talk about,...there is almost a "0" chance of having any awkward silences during the date. 3. It weeds out needy/insecure/over-zealous parties on both sides. If the woman gets upset that she hasn't heard from me, when it has only been a first date, and she barely knows me, that is a red flag. By the same token if the guy can't help himself from texting the girl all week long till the date, as if he is afraid she'll forget about him or something, that is a red flag. After 3-4 weeks the dynamic starts to change and a little more communication if fine. But both parties still need to show some personal discipline. I don't follow these rules at all. I want the woman to at least have a feeling that she's the only one I'm interested in. I also don't want resentment building instead of anticipation. Most women I've tried the no contact game and all women I've been with want to text between the dates just to see how things are going, send something funny/flirty, etc. What, should I not reply? I definitely keep from going overboard but I definitely reply as well. I also don't want the woman going after some other dude who will respond more to her liking. Then again here I am on loveshack on a Saturday night (but I've got my kids so not like I could be out anyway).
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