ThreeRainbows Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 When do you usually give your number to a guy who has asked for it? Before a date or after? I'm new to OLD, and wonder if it's a bad idea to give it out before I meet them in person. My phone is not capable of blocking numbers.
Mrin Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 I'm in my 40's. I usually offer it as a guy about four or five "exchanges" in but also say no worries if they don't feel comfortable. Never had a lady turn it down.
Author ThreeRainbows Posted August 1, 2018 Author Posted August 1, 2018 I'm in my 40's. I usually offer it as a guy about four or five "exchanges" in but also say no worries if they don't feel comfortable. Never had a lady turn it down. Oh, I don't mean him giving me his number. That happens, too, and I just ignore that. I mean when he specifically asks for my number (in case you didn't realize, I'm a chick).
SevenCity Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 Any woman who didn’t give me her number ended up not interested. If you’re worried, get one of those google numbers so you can protect yours. I’ll give out my number to any chick I’m interested in. Haven’t had any stalkers yet.
alphamale Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 just give out your number when you feel comfortable doing so
Juha Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 If a woman I am talking to online will not give a phone number I write them off as game player or not interested... I do not want to message back and forth very long on the site... If they are that uncomfortable or scared then that is probably someone I do not want to date...
Author ThreeRainbows Posted August 1, 2018 Author Posted August 1, 2018 Any woman who didn’t give me her number ended up not interested. If you’re worried, get one of those google numbers so you can protect yours. I’ll give out my number to any chick I’m interested in. Haven’t had any stalkers yet. That's because you're male. Actually, I am interested in these guys. But I am playing it safe.
Author ThreeRainbows Posted August 1, 2018 Author Posted August 1, 2018 If they are that uncomfortable or scared then that is probably someone I do not want to date... It's not about being scared. It's about being smart. If I go see these guys, and it doesn't go as well as I'd like, I would rather them not have my number. That doesn't mean I'm not interested at all.
grays Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 It's not about being scared. It's about being smart. If I go see these guys, and it doesn't go as well as I'd like, I would rather them not have my number. That doesn't mean I'm not interested at all. What is it that youre afraid of, just that they'll call after you've told them you're not interested? I have probably given out my phone number to guys thru OLD upwards of 150 times. I have never felt the need to block one. If you can't block on your phone, just don't answer.
Author ThreeRainbows Posted August 1, 2018 Author Posted August 1, 2018 What is it that youre afraid of, just that they'll call after you've told them you're not interested? I have probably given out my phone number to guys thru OLD upwards of 150 times. I have never felt the need to block one. If you can't block on your phone, just don't answer. Okay. Now this is good advice. I am just worried some of these guys will turn out to be creeps. But your story sounds reassuring that maybe it is unnecessary caution.
PegNosePete Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 That's because you're male. I've got a (male) friend who seems to attract the crazy stalker type. It's actually not a problem exclusive to females, although it is more common. I am just worried some of these guys will turn out to be creeps. If they do, you can just ignore them. Most creeps won't keep sending you creepy stuff if you don't reply or tell them to get lost, they will just move on to creeping out the next victim. If you're unlucky enough to meet one who does persist, almost all reasonably modern phones allow you to block numbers. When I was dating I always liked to have the woman's number and for her to have mine before meeting, just in case there were unavoidable delays on the way to the date such as train delays or traffic. How annoying to be delayed 10 minutes, and she leaves because she thinks you flaked! Most of the ones serious about meeting were happy to give their number out. Having said that my partner didn't give me her number until we'd met 2 or 3 times. It's a guideline, not a hard rule.
ElKay Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 So far, I've been giving it to anyone I've met just so that we can text each other right before if one is late or not because of work. You can't assume everyone has data and will message you via the OLD app if something happened at work or the metro broke down (both are very likely occurrences in my city at least! ). 1
SevenCity Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 If a woman I am talking to online will not give a phone number I write them off as game player or not interested... I do not want to message back and forth very long on the site... If they are that uncomfortable or scared then that is probably someone I do not want to date... That’s the way I felt as well.
caveman621 Posted August 1, 2018 Posted August 1, 2018 About a year of OLD before I met my current wife (through OLD!) I would ask for and give my number when we set a date up to meet just so we could call each other if we were late or couldn't find each other or something like that.
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