Ask her out but might have to move abroad, is that fair?

[stephena2688]

Hi all,

 

There's a girl who I really like, who's a friend of my sister and I really want to ask her out on a date but I'm not going to at the moment. The reason for this is my job might require me to go and live abroad for a year in the next few months possibly and I don't want to ask this girl out on a date and if it works out well with eachother I don't deem it fair to potentially become exclusive with her for me then to disappear for a year abroad and only able to see her maybe 2 times a month when I can fly home. Some people have said to me it'll be fine a lot of people make long distance relationships work and a year is not forever but others say it's not fair, what does everyone on here think? I'm torn

[MidwestUSA]

It's just a first date. Ask her!

 

No sense building it up in your head to an exclusive LDR.

 

Most first dates don't lead to a second. You may not hit it off.

 

Go for it.

[d0nnivain]

The job move is not definite. A lot can happen in a few months. Ask her out.

[smackie9]

take her out and have fun while it lasts.

[sdraw108]

All of the above answers left out an important point. Ask her out, but find a way to drop in your potential plans into the conversation. She has the right to know, so that she can make an informed choice about whether or not to pursue things beyond the first date.