CantTakeMySmile Posted August 2, 2018 Posted August 2, 2018 So you acted a bit over three years and your family didn’t know?
Author steve761 Posted August 4, 2018 Author Posted August 4, 2018 Yes exactly so in the evening she called me and wanted to know whether she should marry him as she’s not getting any feeling as he had contacted her after 2.5 years but I’m surprised as just a couple of days ago she was telling me the way she feels for him she can’t feel for anyone. Isn’t that surprising? Now she knows she’s not getting any feelings as I feel she never had but coz there’s money matter and she feels that the guy is wealthy she’s considering but wants me to tell her what to do. How can I tell her to go marry him knowing she was with me. She doesn’t get that coz she feels if she can get over me in 6 months I too should and when I say I’ll take some time she’s like you are immature. And can’t accept the two of us. How can I accept them knowing that you are my ex and he being my bro. Then the same day last night around 3 in the morning she called me I didn’t pick up. Now that she’s desperate to make a decision she’s calling me until then she left me like nothing spoke to me badly and now when she’s confused suddenly I’m sweet and should be available to her 24/7.
Author steve761 Posted August 5, 2018 Author Posted August 5, 2018 Bring with her since one week felt like since her ex cane into the picture I’ve bedn completely thrown out of the pic and now out of nowhere she messaged me Happy friendship day.
CantTakeMySmile Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 Bring with her since one week felt like since her ex cane into the picture I’ve bedn completely thrown out of the pic and now out of nowhere she messaged me Happy friendship day. This is what you do. I can't think of anything else to even try. Tell you brother that you dated this woman behind your family's back (why?!) for 3 years.Start No Contact with this woman. No, you don't have to tell her you are stating No Contact.Let your brother handle his own businessMove on 1
Author steve761 Posted August 9, 2018 Author Posted August 9, 2018 I’m finding it really hard to move on from her as I know she’s with my brother. I’m unable to sleep at night I feel like calling her and telling that she’s not doing the right thing and it’s really hurtful and disrespectful to leave when he came in.
Author steve761 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 Should I tell her that I’m telling everything to her ex(bro.) but I’m not sure if she’ll accept it or not as she’s talking to her on a daily basis. I’m not sure what to do. If she denies then I’ might be considered as an evil for her and for him. Please hrlp
d0nnivain Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 Yes you are right that he doesn’t know I dated her. But I feel I’m becoming the culprit as he’s my first cousin and everyone would blame me. I always told her that we were in this together and if ever it came out in public I’ll take it personally upon myself rather than let her take it. First is the OM your brother or your cousin? You have called him both. Let me get this straight, this has been going on for years . . . she is back & forth between you two. She wanted to marry your brother/cousin years ago but he said no. Now she's blaming you because he's can't make up mind between you two, yet she thinks she wants to marry him because he's wealthy. She sounds horrid. You need to tell your brother/cousin everything NOW. Do not tell her in advance what you are planning. When it comes out, know she's going to lie & try to spin this to make it all your fault. Heck I wouldn't be surprised if her version is that you forced yourself on her & have been blackmailing her for all these years. She's a sneaky one who cannot be trusted. She is also a gold digger. Your whole family would be well rid of her.
Author steve761 Posted August 11, 2018 Author Posted August 11, 2018 He’s my first cousin who lives at a different house. I often feel until now he used to say bad things about her and she too was like she would never speak to him if he ever came accross. I feel he used and uses me when he’s alone and comes over at my house and he’s feeling guilty that she was all alone when he left her whereas it was all the opposite. She was perfectly fine and out of all this I was d one who got hurt from everywhere and seeing them enjoy.
Noproblem Posted August 11, 2018 Posted August 11, 2018 He’s my first cousin who lives at a different house. I often feel until now he used to say bad things about her and she too was like she would never speak to him if he ever came accross. I feel he used and uses me when he’s alone and comes over at my house and he’s feeling guilty that she was all alone when he left her whereas it was all the opposite. She was perfectly fine and out of all this I was d one who got hurt from everywhere and seeing them enjoy. You need to step on your heart dear. He is your cousin, he is not your brother. I had a cousin that I considered a brother, we would sleep in the same room and we were best friends ever. But when we I lived in his house for 2 years, he humiliated me in front of all his friends, where was his brotherhood with me back then? Then I knew, I only had one brother, cousins are not brothers. They are only relatives. You don't owe him anything! Don't burn for his happiness or her happiness. You need to let go! You need to leave them! Be strong, please! Step on your heart! Change your phone number and don't contact him or her! You don't need them in your life, seriously, people stop talking to their relatives all the time and they cut all ties! Now don't tell me you are an eastern man and it's different! It's the same in all cultures, some people cut ties with their relatives, you don't even need to explain it to others. Questions you will be asked by family or friends: Why are you not talking to him? I am free! Are you jealous he is getting married? I don't care! Won't you attend his wedding? I am busy! People will talk bad about you, your aunt will be sad! They will forget! I am sure you have many friends that you can spend time with, your life does not revolve around this girl or your cousin! So, just step on your heart and be strong Try to travel during their wedding time to avoid this drama! Don't answer her calls ever!
Author steve761 Posted August 12, 2018 Author Posted August 12, 2018 Yes you are right she’s busy talking to my brother and blaming me as if I forced her. I can’t believe my cousin her ex who once disrespected her is regretting the fact that why did he not talk to her for 2 years. And by talking I mean like over the phone. Messages were coming and going like business and college stuffs but as soon as she found out he’s messaged and asking for her she started blaming me and kept on saying that she’s got no feelings left and never loved me. I’m surprised a person who was in a living relationship with me for 6 months hardly an year ago tells me she’s got no feelings and most importantly never had any feelings.
preraph Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 You should never have gotten involved with your brother's ex, my friend. And this is why. There is no good outcome for you. You will be the one who has to behave yourself and get over it at family gatherings. Whether the brother knows or not, you better hope not, or you'll have no family left on your side. Yes, she may eventually tell him. But you kept saying she said you were just friends, so were you sleeping with her or not?
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