ReaperOfTheGrim Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 So my ex of about 5 years and I split about a year and a half ago. It was really rough on me for a little while, (I even posted afew nauseating things on these forums in the wake of the heartbreak ) but I'd say I'm 100% now. There really isn't anything left, outside of a little nostalgia, and missing love, but I've learned that has nothing to do with her. We didn't end on "bad terms" so you speak, and if I ran into her, although it'd be awkward, I think we'd both be fine. All that being said, I really don't want to see her, hear her name, or have anything to do with her. The PROBLEM however, is somehow the c*** managed to weasel her way into a relationship with a friend of my sister's husband. NOW they end up having "game nights" and going over to my older sister's place to watch movies or to go on a walk with my new nephew and HER new son. Now her dating someone else, having a newborn ect ect really doesn't bother me. Her still associating with my family and my/ my family's friends however drives me NUTS to the point of feeling my blood pressure rise any time I think about it. My sister is cautious of what she says on the topic as she knows I don't want to hear it or be around them. Just this past weekend she invited me to see a band, but with a disclaimer so to speak of "you know who may be there". Am i being unreasonable? I've been pretty quite about my severe displeasure with all this. She definitely knows I'm not happy about it, but as far as asking for her "loyalty" or to cut off ties with them, I've done nothing close to it. It's got me so upset, that honestly, I don't really trust myself to handle it appropriately, or like an adult. I guess that's what I'm doing here, lol. Somme advice. On one hand, I feel I'm being ridiculous, childish, and stop being almost jealous of this as weird as that sounds. But on the OTHER hand, I want to tell my sister "it's them or me! " which I definitely would NOT do.. Lol. What do you guys think? I don't know what direction to take this, or if I should do anything at all, and just mind my damn buiness..
Rockdad Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I don't know what you can do except for appealing to your sister. You can get into your ex's face about it. It may not change anything but it sure made me feel better when I did it a couple times.
ThreeRainbows Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 Try to put it out of your mind. You really can't control who your sister is friends with. Let it slide, and focus on your own life. You don't need the drama. 1
guest569 Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 I totally understand where you are coming from. Personally if I was in that situation I would inform my sister that her relationship with my ex makes me incredibly uncomfortable and I don't want to hear about it or see her. Man this is such a betrayal imo! Bit insensitive. Since it is her husband's friend's girlfriend, surely she can create a bit of distance between you and your ex.
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