I'm about ready to give up.

[Revin]

I'm [25M] just not cut out for romantic/sexual relationships these days.... I've read all of these different articles.. saying how casual sex is not meaningless, it's a way to connect with people... it's fun and liberating and relaxing. I don't disagree with that but, I just feel like it's something to be done between two people who are involved in a romantic relationship of some sort, not casual hook ups with someone who I thought was hot and/or wanted to have a one-night-stand with from work or some public venue.

 

On a somewhat different note, I am very sexually in experienced, having had "sex" maybe 6 or 7 times and I put in quotations because it never lasted long, not in that I went off top fast, but more that I couldn't keep it up. The majority were with girlfriends that I wasn't really physically attracted to. Wanting a girlfriend so bad that I took them where I could get them rather than taking the plunge and talking to/asking out my crush or when I was lucky (or unlucky) enough for a crush to be mutual (or not so much) and thet approach me, if it was genuine and not just being used/cheated on and eventually came to having sex, I would be so nervous that it would completely kill my erection.

 

So with all of this being said. I may have contradicted myself in some points feel free to point them out and I will expand them best that I can.

 

But I deem myself unfit for the dating game and am ready to throw in the towel and live out my life as a bachelor. But, I don't really want to... I have female friends who share the same feelings regarding sex and relationships. I am not even sure where I am trying to go with any of this... I guess that I am just looking for some sort of help.

[d0nnivain]

I don't think you need any help. I think you just haven't found the right woman. You want a commitment, not casual so don't settle for casual. Find somebody who shares your values. When you do & you two settle into a trusting monogamous relationship you will be able to last longer in theory because you won't be so nervous.