Ashleymo Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 6 years. I moved to another city temporarily for work and when I came back to town to visit, he tells me his ex wife is planning on divorcing her husband and is considering moving into her old house (the one my boyfriend actually owns and lives in). The only thing is she complains she can’t afford the mortgage. So, to help he’s offered to rent the basement while she has the upstairs with their kids. Am I crazy to accept this? This is abnormal right? Honestly don’t know what to think. Thoughts and opinions are much appreciated.
coolheadal Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 6 years. I moved to another city temporarily for work and when I came back to town to visit, he tells me his ex wife is planning on divorcing her husband and is considering moving into her old house (the one my boyfriend actually owns and lives in). The only thing is she complains she can’t afford the mortgage. So, to help he’s offered to rent the basement while she has the upstairs with their kids. Am I crazy to accept this? This is abnormal right? Honestly don’t know what to think. Thoughts and opinions are much appreciated. Nothing you can do about it. "She has the upstairs with their kids" So he has kids with her and I take it you don't have kids right? So this are some of the things you have to put up with or not. It's not your house it's his house. 6 years you been with him how come you two are not married yet? 1
Highndry Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I'm a bit confused by the way you worded this. If he owns and lives in the house, then he would have to offer or ask her to move back into the house, she couldn't just decide she was going to. Further, when you say he's going to rent out the basement, are you saying he's going to become a landlord and rent the basement out to a different party so the wife can have reduced rent upstairs, or he's renting out the basement to himself (which makes no sense)? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 6 years. I moved to another city temporarily for work and when I came back to town to visit, he tells me his ex wife is planning on divorcing her husband and is considering moving into her old house (the one my boyfriend actually owns and lives in). The only thing is she complains she can’t afford the mortgage. So, to help he’s offered to rent the basement while she has the upstairs with their kids. Am I crazy to accept this? This is abnormal right? Honestly don’t know what to think. Thoughts and opinions are much appreciated. I don't understand this. He is going to rent out the basement to someone else, or he is going "rent" the basement to himself in his own house? If they're going to be all living together again in the same house, then yes, you'd be crazy to accept this arrangement. 1
basil67 Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 What circumstances have led her to wanting to move back in? 1
Art_Critic Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 It sounds like he is going to let her move and and not live there, but then rent the basement and he will live there to help her. If that is the case then the house isn't really his.. maybe it is still theirs and they never quit claimed the deed over. Since you have been in his life 6 years and she is going to go thru a new divorce and you are not married I would worry some... You could move in with him and let her rent the basement out to someone else... I think you need to give us some more info, is he going to live there or is he moving out ? 1
kendahke Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 (edited) I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 6 years. I moved to another city temporarily for work and when I came back to town to visit, he tells me his ex wife is planning on divorcing her husband and is considering moving into her old house (the one my boyfriend actually owns and lives in). The only thing is she complains she can’t afford the mortgage. So, to help he’s offered to rent the basement while she has the upstairs with their kids. Am I crazy to accept this? This is abnormal right? Honestly don’t know what to think. Thoughts and opinions are much appreciated. Yes you'd be crazy to accept this. Too much familiarity under one roof. But ExpatinItaly's question does illustrate the distinction needed in what you actually mean. Where exactly is he planning on living if she moves back home? Her recent ex left her high and dry? Why would he rent out a basement to himself in a house that he owns? Shouldn't she be charged market value for the space or is she just going to move in and pay nothing and pick back up where she left off before her most recent marriage? If it was 6 months, I'd say otherwise, but 6 years? What plans do you and he have towards combining your lives, or it is just a casual thing you two have? Edited July 30, 2018 by kendahke 2
Gaeta Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 6 years. Now you know why you've been a *girlfriend* and nothing more for 6 years.
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