Does my ex girlfriend really need time or is she blowing me off?

[jujuju]

My ex and I broke up a couple weeks ago. We both made mistakes. I recently had a phone call with her. We were both crying, we both told each other we miss each other, and we both told each other we love each other. I wanted to start again. She said she had to be alone because she couldn't forgive me for my mistake (not cheating, but telling a lie). I told her I wanted to take her out for drinks to show her how things will be different. She said she could use a little more time. When I asked how much, she said a week.

 

Is this just her blowing me off or could she really need time to forgive me? The last time I was in a relationship and someone asked for time, they were seeing someone else and just didn't want to be bothered by me. But this time, my ex gave me an idea of how much time she needed. Has anyone else gotten the "I need a little time" line and what happened?

[Whodatdog]

Hopefully this will be a lesson for you. No one here knows what your girlfriend is thinking, but getting caught in lies can be a dealbreaker, for sure. Really cant build a relationship when you dont trust someone, and right now your girlfriend doesnt trust you. No one knows if she can get over it...some can, some can't.

[ThreeRainbows]

Here's something you can do if you're really intent on maturing. Go read the book "Radical Honesty" by Brad Blanton.

[d0nnivain]

You know her, we don't. Does she usually process difficult things slowly? If so, then yes, she needs time. If not, she's blowing you off because she can't figure out how to be direct. She wants the partner you were when things were good before she found out you lied. She might not know how or if to trust you any more & may be unwilling to risk getting hurt again.

[CantTakeMySmile]

My ex and I broke up a couple weeks ago. We both made mistakes. I recently had a phone call with her. We were both crying, we both told each other we miss each other, and we both told each other we love each other. I wanted to start again. She said she had to be alone because she couldn't forgive me for my mistake (not cheating, but telling a lie). I told her I wanted to take her out for drinks to show her how things will be different. She said she could use a little more time. When I asked how much, she said a week.

 

Is this just her blowing me off or could she really need time to forgive me? The last time I was in a relationship and someone asked for time, they were seeing someone else and just didn't want to be bothered by me. But this time, my ex gave me an idea of how much time she needed. Has anyone else gotten the

 

 

 

 

"I need a little time" line and what happened?

 

 

 

 

 

Isn't this the second time she has told she needed space this month?

[jujuju]

Isn't this the second time she has told she needed space this month?

 

 

 

 

Yeah, I only gave her five days of space last time. I guess that wasn't enough?

[CantTakeMySmile]

Yeah, I only gave her five days of space last time. I guess that wasn't enough?

 

 

 

well, didn't she say she needed a few days, and you gave it to her. Then she said she needed a week after that?

[jujuju]

well, didn't she say she needed a few days, and you gave it to her. Then she said she needed a week after that?

 

 

Yeah, she did. Are you saying she's probably just stringing me along? Why would she tell me how much time she needs then? Why not just keep it open-ended?

[CantTakeMySmile]

Yeah, she did. Are you saying she's probably just stringing me along? Why would she tell me how much time she needs then? Why not just keep it open-ended?

 

 

 

It does appear so, yes. All you can do is give her time and see what she says when she comes back. You can not reach out to her.

[jujuju]

It does appear so, yes. All you can do is give her time and see what she says when she comes back. You can not reach out to her.

 

 

So even after the week, I shouldn't text her until she reaches out to me?

[CantTakeMySmile]

So even after the week, I shouldn't text her until she reaches out to me?

 

 

 

I think if she wants to reconcile, she will contact you.

[CantTakeMySmile]

If you don't want to me with him romantically, then just call him up. There is not harm in that. That is what anyone would do that wanted a friend. No need to overthink it since you don't want anything from him.