Why is it that teengers and young adults don't usually the found the "right" one?

[SilverGoldRobot]

Most of the time, people who are about as young as 18 years old are most likely not going to date the person that they are going to get married and have children with.

 

 

I know this as a fact, since me and most of my friends who dated someone when they were 18 years old didn't end up working out with them in the end.

 

 

Also when 2 people (who are both 18 years old) date, they are almost always guaranteed to break up at some point in the future.

[smackie9]

That is what dating is for..to learn what you want and what you don't want. You also learn other things like the importance of communication, trust, and honesty. Your brains are still developing, and so are your lives. Having relationships, and experiences prepare you better for marriage. Marriage with out any real training is going to fail. At 18 you head is still stuck up your butt and you can't see past your nut sack.

[ExpatInItaly]

Because to find the right one, you also need to know yourself well so you can thus choose a compatible partner.

 

People at 18 usually lack the life experience to know who they really are yet, let alone settle on a life partner.

[Romantic_Antics]

Your question can be answered with a single word: inexperience.

[mortensorchid]

Absolutely. I do know, even in this day and age, a few who married their high school sweethearts and are still together. And I know a lot more who did the same and are not divorced from them. Why? Because you're not an adult when you're that age. You think you are, but you're not. Your mentality is still very much that of a teenager's until you are about 24/25, and even still you have more maturing to do. And think about your circumstances : You're living at home with your parents / family, they still have very much a direct influence on what you can / can't do and how you operate. You're not living by yourself, you're not paying bills, you don't have a job, you're not experiencing things, etc. Chances are you haven't even had sex yet. And we all have to go through those phases in life (drinking, drugs, sex, etc.) because it's part of growth.

 

 

There are days still when I think about what life would have been like if I married my high school sweetheart. We met at the wrong point in our lives, looking back. Had he and I met today it would be a whole different story, but it's what it is.

[coolheadal]

Most of the time, people who are about as young as 18 years old are most likely not going to date the person that they are going to get married and have children with.

 

 

I know this as a fact, since me and most of my friends who dated someone when they were 18 years old didn't end up working out with them in the end.

 

 

Also when 2 people (who are both 18 years old) date, they are almost always guaranteed to break up at some point in the future.

 

Don't listen to the mass media or tv shows or movies not real life situations. kids today date and drop and repeat. No one really serious like it was years ago. Today anything goes. More people live together than are married. Those that are married from high school at age 18 are a rare group today!

[kendahke]

My high school sweetheart got in touch with me about 2 years ago. Let me tell you---whatever it was that I felt for him in 1977 is gone now. We just grew into two different kinds of people.

 

 

I thank God that he and I never married.