Author ThisisIt606 Posted August 5, 2018 Author Posted August 5, 2018 He did finally reply, about 6 hours later “ just finished 6 hours of work. I’m sorry I disappointed you. I agree this is not working” I did not respond. Not even sad about it, just feel a sense of relieve. I went out with my girlfriend tonight, honestly had a great time and walked home with a sincere smile on my face feeling good. Glad this “ relationship” got nipped in the bud early rather than hanging around for his shadyness, pontential lies, and flakyness. Ugh just so relived and relaxed. Even though it took me a week too long to end this , knowing myself this is a BIG improvement for me and in the past I would have hung on for longer / tried to make it work. So I’m happy with my continued growth for cutting things off. 5
Scarlett.O'hara Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 That's a great attitude to have. If you can learn something from a negative dating experience (even if it is just a red flag to look out for in the future to help you to waste less time), then it wasn't a wasted experience.
d0nnivain Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 Thisisit606 Good for you for not ghosting. Glad you told him it's not working. Odd that it took him a few more rounds of texts of allegedly trying but blowing you off anyway to agree this isn't working. Better for you for accepting this & not struggling to hold it together when it was obviously not working. Did you have a good time out with your friend while wearing your new top? FWIW, he could not have take an Uber with a dog. They are not required to allow pets. Remember they get rated by cleanliness. If the dog shed the driver would lose valuable drive time re-vacuuming the car. 2
JuneL Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 He did finally reply, about 6 hours later “ just finished 6 hours of work. I’m sorry I disappointed you. I agree this is not working” It’s quite clear the guy was relieved that you told him it’s not working out. He’s probably hoping you would get it when he canceled the double date with his brother; instead, you went out of your way to buy him a dog toy and a new top. I was trying to be sarcastic when I suggested you pick him up; it would have scared the hell out of him if you did have a car and make the offer. Who knows, maybe he’s taking another girl on a double date last night. 1
Gaeta Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 ThisisiIT606 you did the right thing!! You took your power and asserted yourself. I am sure this experience will help you drop unfitted men much fatter in the future. Don't get discourage, you will meet the right man soon. When you do it will unfold effortlessly! 2
ThreeRainbows Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 It’s quite clear the guy was relieved that you told him it’s not working out. He’s probably hoping you would get it when he canceled the double date with his brother; instead, you went out of your way to buy him a dog toy and a new top. I was trying to be sarcastic when I suggested you pick him up; it would have scared the hell out of him if you did have a car and make the offer. Who knows, maybe he’s taking another girl on a double date last night. A guy who can't even break up with a girl is not relatable. Without honesty and being able to be real with people, it's impossible. So not worth it. 1
Gaeta Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 On that alone, seems like neither deleted their profile or she would not have been able to check up on him but new photos on his profile would seem like he's doing something outside the realm of what they agreed to. I am all for communications BUT there is a world of difference between having a profile online and *uploading new pictures* on that profile. We did not advice OP to drop him because of the profile itself, but because updating new pictures is a given he is looking for attention from new women. If you are activaly upoading new picutres on line this means you are actively advertising yourself as single and looking, and THAT from a man who initiated a conversation about exclusivity himself? I don't agree to give time and patience to a snake.
heavenonearth Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 (edited) glad you 'dumped' him Edited August 5, 2018 by heavenonearth
Versacehottie Posted August 6, 2018 Posted August 6, 2018 I am all for communications BUT there is a world of difference between having a profile online and *uploading new pictures* on that profile. We did not advice OP to drop him because of the profile itself, but because updating new pictures is a given he is looking for attention from new women. If you are activaly upoading new picutres on line this means you are actively advertising yourself as single and looking, and THAT from a man who initiated a conversation about exclusivity himself? I don't agree to give time and patience to a snake. Yeah, agree with uploading a new photo is not cool and that's what i mean by outside the realm of what they agreed to. That would appear to be actively look vs taking himself off the market. I guess if i were in OP's shoes i would take some of what happened in perspective. Wouldn't necessary label him a snake but personally always a bit wary of a guy who tries to make things exclusive when there is not the true emotion and time and closeness for that. Be hard to take him seriously if that happened in under a month and yet you are not doing stuff together all the time already. 2
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