Brokenheartedman12 Posted July 28, 2018 Posted July 28, 2018 I’m feeling down, mainly because I have been missing my ex like crazy....ugh!!! She does these things that make absolutely no sense. We have mutuals so I still see her time and time again. She was very helpful and literally followed me everywhere. She joined in a convo to (what I think was bragging to my face how “happy” she is ) that she’s going away with her boyfriend who, she was very unsure she even wanted to date. I remember her telling me she was unsure than she’d send me pics of us and ask me to take her out which I rejected( so I guess it’s part of my fault). Than they start dating and she kept sending me how she keeps calling him by my name? So fast forward her and her mom readd my family back on social media, she’s still very active on mine and views my stuff and what not. I don’t want her to be unhappy but I also feel the way she’s been posting how happy she is has some back stories because ya maybe she is but she is being super extra about how happy she is. I guess it’s an attention thing I don’t really know. Knowing from my relationship with her she’d post stuff like that and we had our ups and downs but I wouldn’t say we were 100% but noone and nothing is. I’ve been missing her but I don’t understand certain things she does!
Happy Lemming Posted July 28, 2018 Posted July 28, 2018 Turn off all social media... She is rubbing your nose in her new found relationship. Don't play into it. What are "mutuals"?? Mutual Friends?? Mutual bonds?? Mutual Children?? 1
Author Brokenheartedman12 Posted July 28, 2018 Author Posted July 28, 2018 Mutual friends, and thought so I find it pretty funny the petty smh. From the beginning she’d just talk about how the whole pursuing reminded her of me and stuff. If she was truly happy she wouldn’t need to do it js.
OatsAndHall Posted July 28, 2018 Posted July 28, 2018 No contact, my friend. Block her on social media and block her phone number. I don't know what she's playing at with her current actions but there's no reason to put yourself through it.
Happy Lemming Posted July 28, 2018 Posted July 28, 2018 Mutual friends... Well if they are true friends, just ask them to meet you when she isn't invited or around. If they can't do that, they are not true friends. You are feeding into her ego, by reading all of the social media. The minute she knows you are not reading it, there will be no reason to post it. She is flaunting her new relationship and you are lapping it up by reading that nonsense. When I break up with someone, I wish them well and hope they find what they are looking for. I don't rub their nose in my new successes, that would be childlike, immature and vengeful. 1
guest569 Posted July 28, 2018 Posted July 28, 2018 I agree with the above. Do you have other friends who are not mutual friends? It might feel refreshing to spend time with people who are not connected with her. I find it really stressful being around 'mutuals' after a breakup. Taking a break from social media will help clear your head too and get some peace!
Author Brokenheartedman12 Posted July 28, 2018 Author Posted July 28, 2018 I agree, but I also truly feel if one is happy she wouldn’t need to rub it in anyone’s face. Too me when people have to prove something there is a reason. When if someone knows they can do it or feel it they don’t need to prove anything ya know ?
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2018 Posted July 28, 2018 Perhaps. But you need to worry about yourself. Stop focusing on her & what she's doing. She's inconsequential to you now.
ThreeRainbows Posted July 28, 2018 Posted July 28, 2018 I’m feeling down, mainly because I have been missing my ex like crazy....ugh!!! She does these things that make absolutely no sense. We have mutuals so I still see her time and time again. She was very helpful and literally followed me everywhere. She joined in a convo to (what I think was bragging to my face how “happy” she is ) that she’s going away with her boyfriend who, she was very unsure she even wanted to date. I remember her telling me she was unsure than she’d send me pics of us and ask me to take her out which I rejected( so I guess it’s part of my fault). Than they start dating and she kept sending me how she keeps calling him by my name? So fast forward her and her mom readd my family back on social media, she’s still very active on mine and views my stuff and what not. I don’t want her to be unhappy but I also feel the way she’s been posting how happy she is has some back stories because ya maybe she is but she is being super extra about how happy she is. I guess it’s an attention thing I don’t really know. Knowing from my relationship with her she’d post stuff like that and we had our ups and downs but I wouldn’t say we were 100% but noone and nothing is. I’ve been missing her but I don’t understand certain things she does! No contact. Oh, my goodness, no contact. You are making yourself crazy. You are bringing on your pain. Until you can respect yourself, and take good care of yourself, you will continue to be trapped in this hell. And, no woman will ever respect you until you respect yourself first. Don't allow her to make you feel bad. 1
guest569 Posted July 29, 2018 Posted July 29, 2018 I agree, but I also truly feel if one is happy she wouldn’t need to rub it in anyone’s face. Too me when people have to prove something there is a reason. When if someone knows they can do it or feel it they don’t need to prove anything ya know ? This is not necessarily true. People boast about things that they are happy about all the time. Maybe she is being spiteful. Maybe she is genuinely happy. Maybe she is miserable. Another alternative is that her talking about her new boyfriend has nothing to do with you, she is just making conversation and treating you as a friend. I am not sure if you or anyone aside from your ex has the answer.
CKJD Posted July 29, 2018 Posted July 29, 2018 Some of it does sound incidental, and certainly not aimed at you. It just is what it is. Let her distract herself with her new toy while you grow as a person. And if it is an attempt to make you jealous, congratulate yourself for not being with a person like that anymore. I know it hurts, but you'll get there. It's happening for me now, and I promise you will LOVE life again once you're through the woods.
Author Brokenheartedman12 Posted July 29, 2018 Author Posted July 29, 2018 I hope that she is, and she wasn’t talking to me she was talking to someone next to me, so that I would hear it. I just don’t fully believe she is happy. Because before they starting dating she was unsure she even wanted to. She’d ask me to take her out, post vids about me and tell me she called him by my name on accident like all stuff that never made sense in why she was telling me and all.shed also tell me how he pursued her made her think of me it was so odd I stopped talking to her. If I was him I would’ve been embarrassed in beginning
marky00 Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I agree, but I also truly feel if one is happy she wouldn’t need to rub it in anyone’s face. Too me when people have to prove something there is a reason. When if someone knows they can do it or feel it they don’t need to prove anything ya know ? Seems you want a reason so i'll give you one. She's feeling guilty and a bit burnt your not chasing after her like a little mouse. By posting this stuff, that might lead you to react to her in a negative fashion. Then she can turn around and say "oh, this guy has problems, I don't feel guilty about dumping him anymore". She also gets to know your still affected by her so she resolves her guilt and gets the ego fix... win/win for her. Not saying this is some twisted plan she created. This is happening on a sub-conscious level and is the common mental disposition for dumpers who dumped decent people but selfishly don't want to own their decision and the things that come with that decision. You wanted to know. Now you know. The truth is ugly which is why people just want to spare you and advise you to go No Contact.
Recommended Posts