treetopwalker Posted September 3, 2005 Posted September 3, 2005 She is 40, I am 34. We have been flirting for ages, then I slept with her once after a night on the alcohol. She continued to flirt, but sent many mixed messages. I tell her I like her, how does she feel about me... She finally declares she loves me, but I need to get myself together first ( I am not comfortable in my job -she knows this). She then turns on me and tells me she is not interested in me that way - I admit I pushed her to tell me how she feels, rather than being cryptic. A week passes and she keeps returning to see me at work on night off (she doesn't know why..) - she is a co-worker. She then starts to spend more time with me again before going on holiday. She keeps telling me I have a fascinating and intriguing mind (repeatedly). What the hell is happening ?? She has many male friends and an active sex life, but doesn't really hide it. I am probably missing some signs, but my mind is pretty confused by her. She is a lady both men and women want to be near.. she attracts fun and laughter, but does not get attached to anyone....
Winfield Posted September 3, 2005 Posted September 3, 2005 Quote: "She has many male friends and an active sex life, but doesn't really hide it." I think you've answered your own question there, but perhaps want to hear someone else's opinion to confirm your suspicion? If she's 40 and is behaving in such a way, then she is VERY immature for her age (perhaps also insecure), and is in no way interested in a commitment-type relationship. If she's like that with you, then what's she like with other "guy" friends? DANGER - this woman is trouble personofied! Quote: "She keeps telling me I have a fascinating and intriguing mind (repeatedly)." She's only telling you what you want to hear. And I'm about to tell you what you don't want to hear - you'd be much better off without her. As far as I can make out, you were no more than a "notch on her bedpost", another guy who's been added to her little black book of conquests... You said she doesn't get attached to anyone...now, I don't intend to offend when I say this, but ask yourself - why should you be any different? In future, she'll only regard you as an easy target for when she has needs of a sexual nature...but how many guys will she have to "seduce" to get what she wants in that department (ie, moving down her list until one of her "slaves" satisfies her need)? Don't let yourself become one of her "slaves" who give in to her after a little seduction... Good luck!
Author treetopwalker Posted September 5, 2005 Author Posted September 5, 2005 now this is where it becomes interesting. Yes I agree about many of those comments. i have in the past been somewhat like that, but I have 'grown up' most of the way. Yes, I have slept with her once, but not since then. I have become a challenge for her, as I resist her many advances repeatedly. She gets pretty pissed off sometimes, but keeps coming back. This does not happen with other guys, I have seen her try it on with others before I was in the picture and if that happens, she is out of there!! I hear you now "she sees you as a challenge"..... It has been 3 months!!!!! We are able to talk for hours (and i mean hours!) on end. Many times have we seen the sun come up and not realised the time. I know my judgement is clouded somewhat, but I can read her like a book with many things. Just not this, as my emotions are involved. She has also told me she is not interested in me romantically, this after her telling me she loves me! a week before. Damn, sounds like a cosmo problem to me!! But she KEEPS COMING BACK!!!! Why???
Craig Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 Could she be described as an attractive crazy drama queen with mood swings?
Zaira Posted September 5, 2005 Posted September 5, 2005 But she KEEPS COMING BACK!!!! Why??? Because she knows you will give her what she wants. She's using you.
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