40somethingGuy Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 Apologize for NOTHING. Do NOT tell her you respect her for stopping you or any of that weak crap. Offer to take her out for a date with specifics and leave the ball in her court. THIS THIS THIS. You really will come off as a chump for apologizing. For what? Being attracted to her? She participated in getting the juices flowing. THink about what so called sexy guys would do...do you think they would apologize for trying to take their shirt off? Hell no. You can forget about it if that is what you will do.
ThreeRainbows Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 She is going to know that's not really true, given your actions the other night. Saying that now is going to look a tad insincere. If you really want to clarify things, why not just ask her how she felt about the other night? Instead of assuming that you know what she's thinking, ask her. This. ^ That would definitely sound insincere to me. It says "I'm so insecure with you, that I will say anything I think will make this situation better." Just ask her how she felt about it.
40somethingGuy Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 (edited) True, but idk what I have to lose by assuming that. It’s definitely different between us now. It’s the only logical reason to me. She liked me a lot telling me she’s “happy to cook me dinner any night” and “you’ll eventually meet my friend Sarah”... just dropping subtle hints about the future. I guess I could just ask her out again but she canceled on me already so it seems weird doing that again without additional context. Maybe I’ll just tell her it was too fast for me and I’d like to see her again but only if we can slow things down. Not even bring up that I’m assuming it was too fast for her I can’t just keep going wondering what might happen. I could be meeting other girls. Thanks for all the advice btw. It’s very much appreciated First off, her cancelling on you is bc she had a different offer/date that she chose over you. Girls with high interest do not cancel much less bc they didn't get enough sleep. No, she gave her weekend night to someone else and is (right now) willing to re-schedule in the event the new guy/date isn't what she wants. Best to just not communicate at all and wait for her to contact you. Then, show you have a life and are busy on the date she suggests. That may make her think other girls are in your mix which would possibly increase her interest in you. Second off, why are you NOT meeting other girls right now? You sound like you think you should be committed to only her until she decides she doesn't want you? Look, at best you are getting many mixed messages. The reason for that is bc she doesn't want to completely discard you until she finds someone else she likes better. Basically you are the fallback option B. Again, remember a girl with a high interest level is never going to cancel for fear that the guy may interpret it as lack of interest on her part. Maybe she is hoping you get the hint. Either way, if you have her on a pedestal in your heart your actions will indicate you have her on a pedestal and that is curtains for you especially so early in this stage. Edited July 30, 2018 by 40somethingGuy
Juha Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 After her acting flaky the night of the cooking date and then cancelling on you I would not be contacting her. She is wasting your time and stringing you along is how I am taking this... I understand you like her but she cancelled a date just hours before it was scheduled. I would be doing nothing, if she likes you she will be in touch as she needs to come to you now. She knows you like her, she blew you off, she needs to make things right... If she does not contact you believe me you did not lose out on anything great.. Go date some other women, forget this one unless she contacts you and wants to make things right I wish you luck
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