fnk1987 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 (edited) Hey everybody! First things first: english is not my native language, so sorry for typos and everything. I would like to share my story with you guys, maybe someone has a good advice to me, help me moving on. So my story is: I knew a girl (G) for quite a long time now, we were in the same friend group, she had a boyfriend (N) for 7-8 years that time back in 2010. We were just friends for the first 2-3 years because i had a girlfriend as well. After we broke up at 2011, i started to have feelings towards her. So after a few times we spent together in parties and other meetings, i felt that she started flirting me. In 2013 we slept in the same bed, and i told her about my feelings. after that i had to move to london from my home country and we talked on the phone for months. When i went home for holidays we always met and sometimes we did more than flirting (in the meantime she still had his boyfriend). In 2015 i told her that i really love her, but i cant go on like this, so we have to break contact. After that she cheated on her boyfriend whit one of my close friend (T), and than i was heartbroken. After the guy stopped meeting her and her boyfriend threw her out of their apartment she soon started to talk to me again. We spoke on phone for hours again, and we did an agreement that when i fly home we gonna have sex for the first time. I was feeling very lonely that time so i decided to leave london and fly home to her. So in early 2016 we moved together to her apartment. We where happy for the first few weeks, than i realized that she still have feelings for (T) and in the meantime she was still talking to (N) as swell for some reason (they owned 2 dogs together so sometimes N came to get the dogs for weeks). After that we sometimes started fighting with her, because i felt jealous and i felt like i cant really trust her. One time in late summer in 2016 we spent a weekend in my sisters house and when i get drunk and fall a sleep she went upstairs to (T) room. I woke up and run upstairs and found her in (T) room. She said that she just helped making the bed, but i felt that she was lying. After that i was started checking her phone and facebook if she had any conversations with (T). A few months have passed and in april 2017 i found a secret conversation between her and her exbf (N). I asked her what does this mean and she didnt said nothing. A week later she dumped me and get back with N again. I felt devastated and miserable. So i spent my summer trying to forget her and what happened, i even went to visit a therapist a few times. More then a year later we met again in a party and she started to tell me how bad her relationship is with N and that the sex was so amazing between us. So after that party the next day she came to my apartment, but we did nothing else just hugging and laying on the sofa. After a couple of days she dumped N and we had sex again. She started to talk to me a lot and i felt like we gonna get back together, but 2 weeks passed and i realized that she dont talk to me that often. Then after we spent 2 more nights together she stopped talking to me completely. Now im stalking her fb and insta (so embarrassing) and i realized she have another guy. I am so scared that another 1 or two years gonna pass and im not gonna able to forget her. Please sombody give me a good advice, what to do now..Im really fully in love with her still.. Edited July 27, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and some spelling
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2018 Posted July 27, 2018 You are like an old worn comfy pair of jeans to her. You are there when she needs you to make her feel good about herself. She's not being very kind to & prefers to play the field, crawling into your bed when there are no other options. You can't trust her & you don't trust her. Stalking her social media & remaining in contact doesn't allow you to heal or move on. When you disconnect you will be more open to meeting new women & somebody healthier & better for you. I know you think you love her but she's not being very loving toward you. Good luck.
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