Nicolenum1 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 Here’s a little background info: we were together through senior year of high school and 4 years of college and we both “knew” we wanted to get married and have kids with each other in the first year of being together. My bf of almost 5 years told me he wanted a break and it wasn’t up for discussion and refused to talk about it and define the “break”. He only said that he doesn’t care if I talk to other people but wasn’t having sex with others. I tried the ignoring technique for 6 days and on the 7th day he text me asking for a necklace he gave me for Christmas back. Fast forward he finally sits down and talks to me and admits that a girl from his job expressed her feelings for him and it made him confused because she saw him as a hero because of his nice personality and because she was in an abusive relationship before. He told me that he wasn’t trying to start anything new with her and didn’t want to be tied down in a relationship right now but was out in public doing relationship things with her then coming home to me to do the same. After further discussion he said he wanted to have a weekend vacation to try and work things out but the very next day he says he doesn’t know if he feels the same way about me. Some extra things that have happened are guys have publicly on social media asked me on dates and my ex would screen shot it send it to me and laugh and ask rude questions like am I being a whore yet. He also gets upset if I don’t text him even though he’s asked me for space. Basically it’s a constant back and forth of confusion on whether or not he wants to be with me and I don’t know if I should wait for him to get his self together or try to move on as painful as it may be.
d0nnivain Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 This limbo is of your own making. Your relationship -- the only one you have known -- has crashed on the rocks of transition from college to real life. Your EX discovered a world beyond high school & wants to explore it. He might come back but you can't count on that or wait for him. You need to take this as a break up & do what is best for you.
Mrin Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 This is a break up and you need to treat it as such. Tell your ex you're going NC and go NC.
Recommended Posts