Author gracey123 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Posted July 30, 2018 I hope we do sort it one day. I need a rebound. Lol.
Author gracey123 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Posted July 30, 2018 I know. I just miss him. Do you think there’s any chance at all for a second chance? He hugged me when I picked my stuff up my stuff, said see you later maybe, that he loved me. So confused.
d0nnivain Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I know. I just miss him. Do you think there’s any chance at all for a second chance? He hugged me when I picked my stuff up my stuff, said see you later maybe, that he loved me. So confused. A second chance would not be good for you. It would be going backwards. Moving forward you will find the guy you wish he had been & things will be better. You will wonder why you ever settled for less.
Author gracey123 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Posted July 30, 2018 That’s true. Just wish he hadn’t said he hopes we get a chance to be better again.
Lessonsinlove Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 That’s true. Just wish he hadn’t said he hopes we get a chance to be better again. Don't give him the opportunity to give you any more false hope. I've been there and done that...You only end up more hurt, angry, frustrated and confused. 1
ThreeRainbows Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 I know. I just miss him. Do you think there’s any chance at all for a second chance? He hugged me when I picked my stuff up my stuff, said see you later maybe, that he loved me. So confused. Well, obviously he is no good for you. You shouldn't take him back even if he tried. But, letting him hug you is the opposite of what you want. I would have been cordial, but cool - like you're dealing with an acquaintance. No hugs. And it sounds like he knows the power is all his, he can choose to get back together with you or not. But you have a choice, too. A man loves a woman who is aware of her own power. She has boundaries on what behavior she will accept and not accept. You accepted him hugging you after breaking your heart. This is to relieve his own guilt, not for your benefit. Is that what a woman with self-respect would do?
Author gracey123 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Posted July 30, 2018 I just didn’t want to leave on bad terms
Author gracey123 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Posted July 30, 2018 Wish I hadn’t hugged him now. He said “love you” as well
ThreeRainbows Posted July 30, 2018 Posted July 30, 2018 Wish I hadn’t hugged him now. He said “love you” as well Don't worry about it. It's not likely going to make any difference in the long run. Focus on yourself now. If he sends you a breadcrumb text (which happens a lot with narcissistic exes), you can always ignore it. That will give him the message, and you will feel like he got to see your self-respect. And, you didn't reply "love you too" right? That is very good.
Author gracey123 Posted July 30, 2018 Author Posted July 30, 2018 I will post any updates if and when he texts. Guess I need to just think if it’s meant to be it’s meant to be.
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 If he texts me, and it’s not asking for stuff, do I still ignore it?
ThreeRainbows Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 If he texts me, and it’s not asking for stuff, do I still ignore it? If you want to show him your self-respect. I'll tell you one thing. Even if he asks you to come back via text, if he's not in tears at your doorstep, nothing will change. Even if he did do a full 180, he is likely not to change for quite some time. So you can reply to a breadcrumb text, and very likely wind up feeling worse for it later, or you can show him your backbone. Choice is yours. 3
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 The last time I did full NC for a week he text me threatening to block my number and that he wanted my paypal. Then after I said no he said he’d been worried something had happened to me.
stillafool Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 He was only worried about the Paypal. That was the only reason he contacted you.
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 He mentions me being with people a lot. Like I’ve probably met someone else. But on Friday when he needed money for serious reasons he kept saying sorry and asking if I was okay. I ended the conversation
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 He’s messaged me just now asking if I’ll give him money. I’ve said no and to stop asking.
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 I’m gonna move on. If he ever wants me back it’ll take so much to prove it. And even then might not be enough. Thank you for the advice. Will update when necessary (or when I feel like messaging him lol)
stillafool Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 Leave him alone and block him. He is just using you and trying to sweeten you up to get money. Where's your pride? 1
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 Kind of processing the sad side of it. He treats me worse than dirt He says he cares but doesn’t I’m nothing to him except a meal ticket We won’t get back together unless he changes and after today I’m not even sure I want to I don’t miss him I miss the person he pretended to be. 1
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 You are making progress. He is the second man in a row to treat me bad. I either need a good therapist or a good man. Lol!!!
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 I go with the good therapist so you don't end up with a 3rd bad man. 1
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 I feel really down right now, looking on the good times realising he doesn’t want me is hard.
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2018 Posted July 31, 2018 To combat feeling down, 1). do something active like go for a walk or clean your house and 2). while you are doing that think about all the rotten negative stuff in the relationship so you feel more like "good riddance" rather than boo hoo hoo he's gone.
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Posted July 31, 2018 Good idea. I just dunno if to never contact him again or what like
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