reozeno Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 Hiya guys. Tbh, the title could mean different things, but...here goes. I dated a girl recently for about 6 months now. Everything great till recently i noticed we don't see eye to eye in many major stuff. I think its a personality clash. Last year I've been going through hard time like being lay off by company, gone through financial hurdle and gained weight. After that ive been trying to improve myself. I learn n try to manage my money, get a new job and trying to lose weight. We get into relationship right before ive get lay off and she's been supportive throughout the time. But since I've been working through the hard time, she's having a opposite direction. She's did not want to improve her life. While she's in better position than me, but she's been struggling to manage her financial, nt taking care of her health and much more. It gets worse in day to day talking as we talking different direction. I will aim on self improvement, investment, careers and skills and she on food, vacation and korean drama. It's nt that im nt a good listener, but it gets tiring when i listen on how she's nt having money n planning going vacation next month! or how she doesn't have time to exercise coz got Korean drama to watch. Should i break up with her?
smackie9 Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 at 6 months, and you are having a bad feeling about this already? then yes I wouldn't stick around. I would give a different answer if you have already invested years into this relationship.
act00 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 At six months into a relationship, it's normal that couples find their lifestyles and personalities do not blend very well and they part ways. You have gone through a major life struggle, while your girlfriend has maintained exactly who she was and who she is when you first met her. You're changing the rules and expecting her to follow suit, when for her, there is nothing that requires changing. Her life and her interests are quite perfect for her. Couples can grow and change together, all the while accepting that there are aspects that will not change. If either party strays so far off the path of the foundation that started the relationship, it can cause a break. You have gone off in a completely different direction, and your girlfriend is not interested in that path. You actually come across as rather judgmental and critical of her because you made some alternative life choices and she's not on board and enjoys that TV show that you find trivial. If you feel she's that insufferable and beneath you, move on. 1
basil67 Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 You can break up with a person for any reason. If you want out, then go.
SevenCity Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 At six months into a relationship, it's normal that couples find their lifestyles and personalities do not blend very well and they part ways. You have gone through a major life struggle, while your girlfriend has maintained exactly who she was and who she is when you first met her. You're changing the rules and expecting her to follow suit, when for her, there is nothing that requires changing. Her life and her interests are quite perfect for her. Couples can grow and change together, all the while accepting that there are aspects that will not change. If either party strays so far off the path of the foundation that started the relationship, it can cause a break. You have gone off in a completely different direction, and your girlfriend is not interested in that path. You actually come across as rather judgmental and critical of her because you made some alternative life choices and she's not on board and enjoys that TV show that you find trivial. If you feel she's that insufferable and beneath you, move on. Exactly this. Just because you are changing doesn’t mean she is supposed to change as well.
Miss Spider Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 I have read this like 3 times and I don’t understand what the issue is. Just break up with her. You’re clearly reaching really far to do it.
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