ruffleswuffles Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 Hi everyone, there's this guy I know, who tries keeping as many women who like him, in his life, as back ups and options, jumping from one to another to meet his needs as they come up. He has one main relationship with his friend's girlfriend (an illicit one), and a few other spare ones with his "admirers", which he seldom takes the time to maintain, until something temporarily goes wrong with his main relationship (the girl ignores him or isn't available for him), and he goes off to the other spare relationships to get his ego boosted and needs met. He has not been upfront with all parties about the dynamics of his relationships, choosing to hide and reveal them as per his agendas and to his own advantage. I was one of his spares, whom he vaguely led on and enjoyed being chased by, for around a year. Although he was nice to me in the beginning and whenever we interacted on a surface level, he would make underhanded comments about me that bordered on insults. He would also keep me hanging for long periods of time as he got entertained and filled by his main relationship partner, only coming to me once in 2 weeks, to "check in" on me. Those "check-ins" were really curt and brief, and never led to proper conversations. He would be so aloof and disinterested, that I would get upset and decide to leave. Then, he would try to appease me by being nice to win me back to his side. The moment I forgave him and decided to stay however, he returned to his aloof state and would pay me little attention, only until he needed me or something. I suspected that he was being shady, and was probably seeing other people as well, so I asked him about it. He gave me ALL SORTS of answers that contradicted each other. Thankfully though, I managed to find out later that he had been using me as his spare and ego boost, and confronted him about it. He never replied me, and refused to meet up with me after that. Instead, he conveniently dropped me altogether, saying he wanted to stop seeing me for a while, and during that while, went looking for other backups and focusing even more on winning his friend's girlfriend over to his side. Worse is, even after everything, he still did not want to let me go completely. He only wanted to stop seeing me for sometime, for things to cool down (with me hopefully forgetting about all the lies he made), before coming back. What a jerk. During the time we saw one another on his terms, and very sparingly as well (cos he would prioritize his friend's girlfriend, who was more useful to him), he would try to have sex with me, even though he had no intentions of committing to me. He was someone who wanted to be single, but with kids, and see more than one woman too. What do you guys think about such a guy?
kendahke Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 What do you guys think about such a guy? Not much. Have you blocked him on your phone and all social media? Have you gone NC on him? If not, why not? Why are you volunteering for this treatment? 1
stillafool Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 He is obviously a Player, has many options and knows women are going to hang on to him no matter how badly he treats them. The question is why are you still asking about this guy after the way he's treated you? Girls want the bad boys but then get hurt when they don't want them back. 1
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