WoodChris Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 Hello! I don't usually share my life on forums but I need advices. I am English and I often travel to France to see friends. Not long ago, I met a French woman through a mutual friend. But I didn't have time to meet her before the end of my stay because she didn't live in the same city. I spoke to her only by messages and skype but we immediately got along well. And I started to flirt with her. She is quite passionate and seems to like me to tease her. I decided to meet her in a few months but I don't know how the drag in France works. Could someone give me some tips to seduce her and not to scare her? I specify that I am 25 years old and she is 23, almost 24. And that she is sometimes paradoxical. Some days, she will talk to me a lot as if she was a lacking affection and sometimes she will not talk to me at all. Thank you!
Gaeta Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 I think you just need to be yourself and do things as you know them. The cultural differences between UK and France aren't like Seberia versus Africa. You're safe to approach her the way you usually do things. I am Canadian and my bf is from France. We have a few cultural differences and we have a few differences in the way we handle relationships but we navigated through that just fine. I remember when I addressed dating exclusively with him he had never heard of such conversation being needed, he had assumed we were exclusive because we had slept together, he was also shocked when I first took my wallet out to pay a date lol. Do you really want to get into a long distance relationship, are you ready to uproot yourself and move there eventually? 2
Author WoodChris Posted July 25, 2018 Author Posted July 25, 2018 Thank you very much for your answer! I'm just afraid she'll get tired if I don't give her a lot of affection and I'm afraid of misunderstandings too. I am quite ready to live a distant relationship with her, she is my dream girl and I could see her from time to time when I go to France. But I must already tell her what I feel. May it be better that I wait to see her in person to tell her?
coolheadal Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 Thank you very much for your answer! I'm just afraid she'll get tired if I don't give her a lot of affection and I'm afraid of misunderstandings too. I am quite ready to live a distant relationship with her, she is my dream girl and I could see her from time to time when I go to France. But I must already tell her what I feel. May it be better that I wait to see her in person to tell her? Tell her in person, express your affection towards her but you said sometimes she doesn't with you. Flip on and off type. Just be careful to fall in love and not knowing if she has any damage in romance. This could make your life hell. Plus you both are young adults.
salparadise Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 My thought is that you'd better quit assuming that she'll still be enthusiastic in a few months, or that you can hold her interest that long by messaging. There is usually a window of opportunity, and if you don't carpe diem it will close. She probably has a few frenchmen sniffing around, and not playing the maybe someday game. 1
Author WoodChris Posted July 25, 2018 Author Posted July 25, 2018 I don't know if she will always be enthusiastic and I know that there are boys who are sniffing around her but she seems sincere and always waiting in the morning to send me a message when I wake up. What surprises me is that she seems to be very lacking in affection and asks for me who lives miles away from her. I hope I can keep her close to me until October when I go to France. I really don't know what to do to keep her enthusiastic without tell her my feelings. My friends told me that French women were wandering and tired quickly. My thought is that you'd better quit assuming that she'll still be enthusiastic in a few months, or that you can hold her interest that long by messaging. There is usually a window of opportunity, and if you don't carpe diem it will close. She probably has a few frenchmen sniffing around, and not playing the maybe someday game.
Haydn Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 Learn a few lines from, Blaise Pascal`s `Wager` Can`t go wrong. Good luck.
Gaeta Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 Thank you very much for your answer! I'm just afraid she'll get tired if I don't give her a lot of affection and I'm afraid of misunderstandings too. I am quite ready to live a distant relationship with her, she is my dream girl and I could see her from time to time when I go to France. But I must already tell her what I feel. May it be better that I wait to see her in person to tell her? But would she be happy only seeing you from time to time? I think you are ahead of yourself here, you don't even know if she likes you 'that way'. Remember you have never met her face to face. You do not get your feelings all tangled before a face-to-face meeting. As of now she only sees you like a guy in UK she is in touch with. Get to know her before expressing *feelings*.
Author WoodChris Posted July 25, 2018 Author Posted July 25, 2018 Oh yes, I think you're right. I'm going too fast. I think I'll try to get to know her better. I don't want to make her anxious. She seems happy that I come in October however, she told me she was looking forward to it. But would she be happy only seeing you from time to time? I think you are ahead of yourself here, you don't even know if she likes you 'that way'. Remember you have never met her face to face. You do not get your feelings all tangled before a face-to-face meeting. As of now she only sees you like a guy in UK she is in touch with. Get to know her before expressing *feelings*.
Noproblem Posted July 26, 2018 Posted July 26, 2018 The same way to seduce any girl I guess! and France is next to England, why meet after so much time! Meet now, don't postpone this otherwise, it will be another distant relationship that is doomed to fail!
Author WoodChris Posted July 26, 2018 Author Posted July 26, 2018 I would like to meet her now but I have to work and she too in August, if I see her in September, do you think it will be ok? The same way to seduce any girl I guess! and France is next to England, why meet after so much time! Meet now, don't postpone this otherwise, it will be another distant relationship that is doomed to fail!
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