wantslove92 Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 So I’ve been dating this guy. We are both 25 years old and met from tinder. I am a little older since I’m turning 26 next month. After we kissed he texted me and said “Don’t try so hard when we kiss”. He said “kissing is like dancing. You need me to lead”. Then he said that we should have a practice make out session. We haven’t had sex. Next week will be a month of us dating. He mentioned sex through text. He asked me that since we have been talking for a while he thinks it’s about time we have sex and if not then to just continue to be friends. I told him I’m looking for a serious relationship and not a friends with benefits. He said he doesn’t want a friends with benefits. He said he feels that we should have sex to see if we have a connection sexually. and see where it goes. Since he said I need practice on kissing which did offend me real bad, he even asked me if he needs to teach me how to have sex. I’ve had sex before but not a lot of it so I told him I’m not a virgin but still inexperienced. This offended me even more... My self esteem went downhill because apparently I’m a bad kisser and is probably bad at sex... I don’t even wanna have sex with him anymore because I’m that offended... Do I have the right to feel this way? I even feel like crying
basil67 Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 He said you need to let him lead? This guy has no idea of what he's talking about. Either that or he's super insecure. Kissing is about equal passion coming from both sides. Then he asks if he needs to teach you how to have sex??!! Absolute tosser. If I were you, I'd tell him to go find someone else who can kiss him how he wants it done And no, don't be friends. And please, don't let his rubbish make you feel insecure - I'm sure you're doing it just right. 1
Echo74 Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 He said you need to let him lead? This guy has no idea of what he's talking about. Either that or he's super insecure. Kissing is about equal passion coming from both sides. Then he asks if he needs to teach you how to have sex??!! Absolute tosser. If I were you, I'd tell him to go find someone else who can kiss him how he wants it done And no, don't be friends. And please, don't let his rubbish make you feel insecure - I'm sure you're doing it just right. Absolutely agree! ^^^ Get rid of him now before you're too invested in the relationship and he decide's you don't "connect sexually".
40somethingGuy Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 So I’ve been dating this guy. We are both 25 years old and met from tinder. I am a little older since I’m turning 26 next month. After we kissed he texted me and said “Don’t try so hard when we kiss”. He said “kissing is like dancing. You need me to lead”. Then he said that we should have a practice make out session. We haven’t had sex. Next week will be a month of us dating. He mentioned sex through text. He asked me that since we have been talking for a while he thinks it’s about time we have sex and if not then to just continue to be friends. I told him I’m looking for a serious relationship and not a friends with benefits. He said he doesn’t want a friends with benefits. He said he feels that we should have sex to see if we have a connection sexually. and see where it goes. Since he said I need practice on kissing which did offend me real bad, he even asked me if he needs to teach me how to have sex. I’ve had sex before but not a lot of it so I told him I’m not a virgin but still inexperienced. This offended me even more... My self esteem went downhill because apparently I’m a bad kisser and is probably bad at sex... I don’t even wanna have sex with him anymore because I’m that offended... Do I have the right to feel this way? I even feel like crying I am sure you will find many men perfectly happy with how you kiss and don't worry about the sex part down the road. You will evolve with that person into what your likes and preferences are. Don't be afraid to be a little freaky. Huge turn on! This guy you are talking about will only cut you down and if you stayed, your cooking would not be good enough, or how you take care of him would be criticized. You don't need this.
stillafool Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 Don't have sex with him because if he doesn't like the way you kiss he's not going to make you his girl. Rarely are men going to make someone their gf if they haven't had sex with her first.
Kelliousme Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 He sounds like a jerk who wants to take advantage of you. When you meet the "right" person, they wouldn't make you feel the way you do now. Seems to me this guy is just trying to get in your pants. I'd run if I were you..
coolheadal Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 So I’ve been dating this guy. We are both 25 years old and met from tinder. I am a little older since I’m turning 26 next month. After we kissed he texted me and said “Don’t try so hard when we kiss”. He said “kissing is like dancing. You need me to lead”. Then he said that we should have a practice make out session. We haven’t had sex. Next week will be a month of us dating. He mentioned sex through text. He asked me that since we have been talking for a while he thinks it’s about time we have sex and if not then to just continue to be friends. I told him I’m looking for a serious relationship and not a friends with benefits. He said he doesn’t want a friends with benefits. He said he feels that we should have sex to see if we have a connection sexually. and see where it goes. Since he said I need practice on kissing which did offend me real bad, he even asked me if he needs to teach me how to have sex. I’ve had sex before but not a lot of it so I told him I’m not a virgin but still inexperienced. This offended me even more... My self esteem went downhill because apparently I’m a bad kisser and is probably bad at sex... I don’t even wanna have sex with him anymore because I’m that offended... Do I have the right to feel this way? I even feel like crying My dear your letting someone tell you things that aren't right to say. You kiss and learn. He's expecting more from you or what he's use to as a player. You don't have to take this from him. Tell him to take a walk and don't look back! Your not a bad kisser, no one is. Kiss and hold the kiss that's all you have to do. He might want you to drop your tongue down his throat, you don't have to do that with him. Sounds like that what he want. Kissing is a form of loving someone. You can kiss how you want. But for him to put you down for kissing they tell him your not going to kiss him ever again. You don't need to take any verbal abuse from any man. You kiss and you learn as you kiss that's the best answer for you. He wants some long deep kissing for his ego. This guy is a jerk and you need to get yourself away from him.
LurkerXX Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 Be careful with this one. So far, he is just a lower level manipulator, using words to cut you down. And it may be as far as it goes with him. If you being less experienced than him was that big a deal, he would have left already. Instead, his solution is to make you feel bad. Let me tell you, there are many ways for people to express their preferences, often in action;), without cutting you down. He wanted too make you feel bad, take you down a notch. 1
kendahke Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 Lesson learned: you and he are not compatible. Best to find out early and not waste youth on it.
carhill Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 I noticed all the kissing and sex stuff occurred through text. What do you and he talk about in person? What occurs during kissing? I'm asking because sometimes more information is helpful to responses and you appear to have the habit of starting threads and disappearing. 1
Gretchen12 Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 He is socially awkward. He's not supposed to say those things. Not saying there's anything wrong with the way you kiss, but I've met men that don't kiss so good and I said nothing. Dated this one guy, every time we kiss my entire face becomes wet with his saliva. Then I feel it's rude to take out tissue and wipe. So I don't wipe then I am in public with a wet face, and after some time start to feel the sticky saliva start to dry and tighten on my skin. But I never criticized him. It's just not done.
Gaeta Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 Please don't let this clown dictate what is good or not. Telling you about kissing and sex through sex is pathetic. HE can teach someone else how to kiss. Get rid of him.
losangelena Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 He asked me that since we have been talking for a while he thinks it’s about time we have sex and if not then to just continue to be friends. I told him I’m looking for a serious relationship and not a friends with benefits. He said he doesn’t want a friends with benefits. He said he feels that we should have sex to see if we have a connection sexually. and see where it goes. That is the biggest pile of horse crap. Sure he doesn't want a FWB. He sounds like he wants to just hook up with you and disappear. Cloaking it in some hoo-haw about "sexual connection." In my experience, any guy who says he wants to just "see where it goes" isn't serious. They know where it's going the moment they start in on that line, and that's on the fast track to no where. Forget this loser. If he was genuinely interested in a relationship, this is not the way he'd go about it (hopefully). Never in my life have I had a male friend declare that it's time to have sex and then go back to just being friends. That's not how friendship works.
smackie9 Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 This guy sounds like a narcissistic d-bag. I'm gonna go with this.^^ As soon as he started making you feel bad from that first comment you should have blocked/delete him. Tip: do not let anyone ever talk to you in that manner....it's rude and unforgivable.
amaysngrace Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 Ugh. He's totally trying to cut you down and make you insecure. I'd tell him sorry for the bad kiss but you just don't know how to turn a woman on.
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