Yami Posted July 23, 2018 Posted July 23, 2018 Things have been very rough lately with my gf, she is under lot of pressure and is depressed. I have been trying to support her and be patient with her. Whenever she’s not in mood and swears at me, I don’t argue with her about it. She hardly talks to me anymore, she does go out with her friends for dinner, outing. She ignores me if she doesn’t feel like talking, doesn’t text anything for hours even though she’s on social media. She never asks how my days are or what I’ve been up to. Even if we do talk, it’s about her only. I was having a bad day and told her I’m feeling quite depressed as well, she outright told me she can’t deal with my negative stuff. She isn’t even interested in it. She considered it as argument and told me to go **** myself. I feel hurt, I always listen to her and support her but when I needed some support, she doesn’t care.
caveman621 Posted July 23, 2018 Posted July 23, 2018 It's tough to date someone with issues like it sounds like she has. I think a relationship is about mutual support. It sounds like that's only going one way. Of course, we only have your side of the story. How long have you two been in a relationship? Has she always been like this?
Gaeta Posted July 23, 2018 Posted July 23, 2018 Depressed or not, at the moment someone calls me names our relationship is over. Depression is not what makes her treat you like dirt. She has no respect for you. This relationship may have been good at some point but it's over now. Relationships are about supporting each other and enhancing each other's life. I'd say you're getting none of those so it's time to break up.
coolheadal Posted July 23, 2018 Posted July 23, 2018 Things have been very rough lately with my gf, she is under lot of pressure and is depressed. I have been trying to support her and be patient with her. Whenever she’s not in mood and swears at me, I don’t argue with her about it. She hardly talks to me anymore, she does go out with her friends for dinner, outing. She ignores me if she doesn’t feel like talking, doesn’t text anything for hours even though she’s on social media. She never asks how my days are or what I’ve been up to. Even if we do talk, it’s about her only. I was having a bad day and told her I’m feeling quite depressed as well, she outright told me she can’t deal with my negative stuff. She isn’t even interested in it. She considered it as argument and told me to go **** myself. I feel hurt, I always listen to her and support her but when I needed some support, she doesn’t care. You need to pull your gut in and just don't talk to her again. Ignore her and give it back to her by not speaking or talking to her. Why would you as a man put up with her mood swings aim side jabs (call it this way). She doesn't care how you feel or what your doing either it's all about her. Well right there should say it all to you. Leave her alone forget what she said and do yourself a favor to get a piece of your mind back. You will be her doormat if you don't do as I suggest. It will not go away or get any better than you think. She's controlling you and your just trying to please her. 1
smackie9 Posted July 23, 2018 Posted July 23, 2018 This isn't depression, this is her not wanting to be in a relationship with you anymore...she is too much of a coward to end it. She's hoping this will force you to do it. It's over. 2
Lotsgoingon Posted July 23, 2018 Posted July 23, 2018 She has energy to go out with friends but no energy to go out with you? She dismisses your pain when you say you feel depressed. She's using and playing you. Dump her yesterday. Depressed people do not get mean ... and they try to avoid everyone ... She's playing you. End it and stay far away. 2
mortensorchid Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 These are not good signs. I have a feeling this is when she is showing another side of herself that you did not see before or it was never shown to you. I remember the 2nd to last serious relationship I was in, it was LDR, we were together for about 2 years. I arrived at the airport, from the minute he came to pick me up I could tell there was something wrong. He did nothing but shout the whole time. He was absolutely miserable, in a rage. I was blown away at first, what happened? He yelled at me, he yelled at people he encountered. He was going off about his friend Dan who had married this woman about two years before (that's another story, if the two of them are still married I would be shocked) but he said Dan had said this and that and his response was (fill in the blank). He said Dan's wife is a miserable brat, Dan said he doesn't want this, Dan and her did this, etc. I was like "what's wrong with Dan and his wife that they would make him so angry like this?". I later that same weekend encountered Dan and he said he didn't know what was wrong with him either. I said I was afraid to ask, he kept saying you did this and you said that, etc. Dan said to me "No I didn't, we didn't even talk today." I later realized he was saying what he felt and was masking it by saying someone else did, he could not say "I think (blank)." Something's wrong with your gf. If she's not telling you, then you better consider other options. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 There are huge differences between being depressed & being rude. Truly depressed people don't have the energy to go out with their friends, be combative with SOs or to talk about themselves. The shut down on all levels. Something else is up here & you are not being treated kindly by this woman.
basil67 Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 Sounds more like she's miserable being in the relationship. Cut her loose. 1
kendahke Posted July 24, 2018 Posted July 24, 2018 . She told me to go **** myself. Girl bye! : peace sign turns into middle finger : She just issued you your dismissal papers. You should take them and make yourself scarce. Let her get through whatever it is she's going through with the help of those whose time she values more. She certainly doesn't value you or yours, so stop pouring yourself down her energy drain. If the person you're with treats you in any way other than well, and you keep sticking around trying to make it work, you're no longer a victim of what they're doing--you're a volunteer. ~ Derrick Jaxn 2
Author Yami Posted July 25, 2018 Author Posted July 25, 2018 Thank you for the responses everyone. The next day she apologized and pretended like nothing happened. I just cannot imagine seeing her the same way again after what she said to me. I thought I would never be able to do this but I told her she hurt me and I asked her not to contact me again. She hasn't sent any messages since then. 1
coolheadal Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 Thank you for the responses everyone. The next day she apologized and pretended like nothing happened. I just cannot imagine seeing her the same way again after what she said to me. I thought I would never be able to do this but I told her she hurt me and I asked her not to contact me again. She hasn't sent any messages since then. Your man never tell them they hurt you they don't care if they did or not. But you know what to say next time and hopefully you'll never have to say it. We're done goodbye!
kendahke Posted July 25, 2018 Posted July 25, 2018 Thank you for the responses everyone. The next day she apologized and pretended like nothing happened. I just cannot imagine seeing her the same way again after what she said to me. I thought I would never be able to do this but I told her she hurt me and I asked her not to contact me again. She hasn't sent any messages since then. How many times today did you check for her messages? Stop staying connected to her drama--block her. Go full bore NC
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