Saidar Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 I really need some advice on this matter: I got a friend, she's 16, I'm 17. We have been friends for almost 18 months. About a year ago I told her I love her. And I really did mean it, 'cause I can't live without her. There's no other girl like her. But she refused my love, and said we can only be friends. I've always hanged on to her(and she on me), 'cause I can't lose her. But a month ago, it looked as if she is starting to like me more. She started calling me, something she NEVER did before. A day ago I went to visit her(we live in different towns(only 50 km away)), and she even gave me photos of her, not just normal photos, some sexy photos that she will NEVER share with other guys(not porn! Swimsuit etc). Is this signs of trying to show me that she wants to go further than just being friends?
laRubiaBonita Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 either she does like you know, or she is playing you. hard to say at this point, and not knowing you or her.
Author Saidar Posted September 2, 2005 Author Posted September 2, 2005 She is the type of girl you don't want to mess with. Her sport is martial arts, she's the best sharpshooter in our province. She's that type of girl that always looks "emotion dead", but inside she's a very sweet and nice person. She won't play a guy, that I'm 100% sure of. She's the smartest kid in her grade(at school). And she is 100% non-slut.(lol). We make VERY good friends, but I always wanted to go further in our relationship, but she always resisted. Until now things is starting to look different.
Beachgrl486 Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 I dont know. It is hard to tell. She might like you but you cant be naive here. Girls do play games..so do guys but I mean I can think of time where I had guys really like me and looking back I did give them mixed signals. The truth is many people really like it when someone else is really into them and they know it. It is a total ego boost. You dont want to lose that . Sometimes people dont think that they are actually hurting the other person in the long run. You have her up on a pedistal and it is hard to think that she would do something like that but from an outsider (and ofcourse I do not know this girl) but it is not uncommon for a girl who knows you love her to just keep you around. ( what I mean by that is guys and girls do that kind of stuff all the time. She could have given you those pictures because she knows you are going to think it is just the most beautiful thing in the world and there for she feels really good about herself, it could have been just like a tease sort of thing) If she wanted to be with you knowing you want to be with her she would probably tell you. You could make this really simple and just ask. You will be able to tell by her reaction. If she says "well I just dont know what I want right now" or something like that then you know that she truly just does not want to be with you like that. But if that is the case I would try to do NC. I know that will be hard because you are friends and all but you cant be just friends with her the way you feel about her. But beside the down side, ofcourse she could like you but I would just ask and see what she has to say. You will be able to tell by her reaction.
Author Saidar Posted September 2, 2005 Author Posted September 2, 2005 Thanks, I think you are right. I'm going to give her another week or two. If she continues with this behaviour, then I'll ask her.
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