Iris17 Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 Why do you feel that you have to be polite with him when he disrespect your wishes. If you genuinely don't care about him then why would you even care that he exists. You shouldn't even have to leave the sports club because of him. What he does is his problem, not yours. If he calls just tell him you don't wanna talk and hang up. After a while when you bump into him you will be able to walk with your head up high..he should be ashamed and you know what? He will go on and prey on another woman in the club very soon after he realises he can't play you. Or maybe he is doing that already. It is only hard to walk away when you have some kind of feelings for them. I know it is nice to have opposite sex attention and it may make you feel special but trust me..it isn't worth it when they have a partner already. However it is up to you if you wanna be the fish that bites the bate or the fish that swims away. 2
Bufo Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 Rule for MM in an affair: it is always easier to keep the AP you have than it is to find, groom, and seduce a new AP. Guess whar? He’s applying this rule. Antidote? No Contact! You have nothing to gain by interacting with him. 1
pepperbird Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 Starswillshine, that's awful of him. I'm sorry you went through that. My MM definitely met with other women for lunches/coffees. After my experience, I don't think I could ever trust men 100% again. Instead of framing it this way, how about taking the tack that you have learned that you can trust yourself and your own judgement. 1
lhgirl Posted August 5, 2018 Posted August 5, 2018 Throw the hook and swim away. Thank you for the insights!
Author NomiMalone Posted August 8, 2018 Author Posted August 8, 2018 Thanks everyone for your replies. I appreciate it so much. I wanted to end this with him politely because I have no intention of leaving the club. I've been there for 5 years and I often socialise outside the club with the rest of my team. MM works there in an admin role and fortunately the majority of his shifts don't coincide with the hours I attend. I don't want to break NC a second time because - where would that lead? Back to the same crap. Nothing will change. I feel disappointed and empty right now without him in my life, but it's preferable to the constant burden of anxiety and guilt that I was living under towards the end of the EA. In the time since my first post in this thread, I've read many a OW story on here and the lesson has been loud and clear - affairs NEVER END WELL. The numerous consequences are never worth it. I've been spending more time with friends lately, and I have a date with a guy planned for next week. I've also been busying myself with another project I've been putting off for some time. All this has really helped with taking my mind and focus in other directions, and away from MM.
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